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Verbal abuse during pregnancy
Hi, my partner is the loveliest person ever but when he drinks he turns into someone else. Was supposed to be staying at his sisters tonight and I knew I was holding them back from going to a party across the road so I said I would go to bed, I couldn't sleep so told him I was going to go home but everyone convinced him to come with me. On the car journey home he told me I was a horrible person, he was going to smash my car up, everyone hates me and that I should get an abortion. I know it's bad but I'm used to it, it's the same everytime he drinks. Then the next morning he will appologies l, it happens time after time.
I know he wouldnt physically hurt me but I really do not know what to do, we live together but i have had enough, i live 400 miles away from my family and dont really have any friends here so would love to just move home but I dont know what yo do because obviously I'm pregnant.
I feel so stupid for posting this on here but really need some advice. I know most people will tell me just to leave him but I dont find it's that easy because of my current situation.
I know he wouldnt physically hurt me but I really do not know what to do, we live together but i have had enough, i live 400 miles away from my family and dont really have any friends here so would love to just move home but I dont know what yo do because obviously I'm pregnant.
I feel so stupid for posting this on here but really need some advice. I know most people will tell me just to leave him but I dont find it's that easy because of my current situation.
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Is there any chance he’d give up alcohol while you have, for the baby? You’ll be very emotional and hormonal at the moment!
In fairness he’s going to have to do something because you deserve much better.
Would he move closer to your family and friends so you don’t feel so isolated???
you need to explain to him, when he’s sober just how bad he is drunk and make him see that it’s unfair and you’re not willing to put up with it anymore. You have a baby in the way that you both need to protect!xxxx
It is always worth talking to him and expressing how you feel.maybe he will take it on board and work something out. If not I would decide what you want and think about moving closer to family.
Whatever decision you make, you always have the option to change your mind! So try not to put too much pressure on yourself x