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Family telling you they want the names you like....
Hiya Girls,
Like some of you know I was convinced I was having a girl... we found out on friday were having a boy lol really doesnt matter either way were both over the moon!
We are set on our girls name which would have been Olivia Katelyn however slightly undecided on boys names..
OH likes Charlie and Alfie and I like Thomas... OH sister had said before we went for the scan she would have called a boy Thomas and really wanted it (it's my dad's names and her OH dad's names)...
Upon finding out were were having a boy and telling people she phoned my OH who is her younger brother and refered to our little boy as Charlie (about a million times) clearly because she wants Thomas - she has two little girls and really had problems getting them (7 MC's before them) and she is lovely i'm close with his family too luckily!
Also has a text of his niece whom told me not to use Alife as she wants it if she has a boy - she has just had a little girl!
But I cant help think I'm am pregnant with this boy now they may never have more or boys or what ever surely I am intitled to call my child what I like even if I like names they would have liked should they had a boy first - I didnt pick them because they had them in mind they are pretty common and its our choice.
felt slightly annoyed - and made a joke that she was only refering to bump as Charlie as she wanted Thomas for her self but that we hadn't decided as of yet!
What do people think am I being a little sensitive or with in my rights to feel like this? x
Like some of you know I was convinced I was having a girl... we found out on friday were having a boy lol really doesnt matter either way were both over the moon!
We are set on our girls name which would have been Olivia Katelyn however slightly undecided on boys names..
OH likes Charlie and Alfie and I like Thomas... OH sister had said before we went for the scan she would have called a boy Thomas and really wanted it (it's my dad's names and her OH dad's names)...
Upon finding out were were having a boy and telling people she phoned my OH who is her younger brother and refered to our little boy as Charlie (about a million times) clearly because she wants Thomas - she has two little girls and really had problems getting them (7 MC's before them) and she is lovely i'm close with his family too luckily!
Also has a text of his niece whom told me not to use Alife as she wants it if she has a boy - she has just had a little girl!
But I cant help think I'm am pregnant with this boy now they may never have more or boys or what ever surely I am intitled to call my child what I like even if I like names they would have liked should they had a boy first - I didnt pick them because they had them in mind they are pretty common and its our choice.
felt slightly annoyed - and made a joke that she was only refering to bump as Charlie as she wanted Thomas for her self but that we hadn't decided as of yet!
What do people think am I being a little sensitive or with in my rights to feel like this? x
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Tammi 24+2
Just popping in from the ttc forum with a quick story! About 8 years ago my (horrid) ex and I were talking about kids and if we ever had them, what we'd call them. Our best friends said 'you can't have Tom / Thomas because we want that'. In the end, they had two girls and aren't able to have any more kids and we split up - result, no Tom / Thomas'! The moral of the story, call your kids what you want because you can guarentee if you don't, your niece and OH's sister will only ever have girls and you'll be sad you missed out on a name you liked!
Turns out we're having a boy so I don't have any problems! But I was discussing baby names with friends and I said we were thinking of Harry for a boy. One person said that another of our close friends (who is pregnant now too) is thinking of that and she said it in such a way that it may be a problem... She's due before me so it sounded like if she chose that name then we wouldn't be allowed to. Now that to me is a step too far!
It is your choice but at the same time if it can cause friction then it may change how you feel about the name... But if you decide on Thomas then she'll just have to get used to it! And even if she did have another child and it was a boy she may have changed her mind by then. It shouldn't ruin a relationship and if it does then there must have been problems in the first place.
good luckx
there are plently of Thomas, Charlie's, Alfie's, Olivia's and Katelyn's around none of us made any of those names up! And the simple fact of the matter is were having this boy first - i dont remember being consulted when they chose there childrens other names as to if i might of like them had i ever got pregnant! think im going to take that line.. xx
Its your choice what you want to call your son who most definately is NOT AN IF!!!!
From someone who is calling her son (due in June) Thomas Michael James!!!! (and bugger anyone else - she says with hormones having a wild power serge)
we decided on Fraser a while ago (we know its a boy too), and there have been two people we know who have just had babies in the last couple weeks, and one is due around same week as me.
we spend ages hoping and praying that no-one would choose Fraser (we been keeping name choice secret), because to me, at that time it was a great name and i dont know that id give baby that name if someone else had just called their newborn the same name (kind of would spoil it for me), and we absolutely loved it, had been referring to bump as Fraser too! and in our eyes they had their baby first so had the rights to that name more than us (first come first served kind of thing).
anyway the two newborn boys have different names, and the one due in the same week as me is having a girl.
the point of the story of this is..we now dont want Fraser anyway and prefer Ethan, and for the next wee while thats what we like, and this might change again i suppose. But even if someone else called their child Ethan(or whatever we end up liking) i would still call our baby it regardless. Our Ethan will be a different child from their Ethan and in any case there will prob be 5+ of them in nursery school or wherever! its a popular name.
just name you rchild whatever you want, but keep your choices to yourlsef until the baby is born, that way it wont seem like such a difficult situation.. just go here is my baby, his name is ........ they cant do anything about trying to change your mind then x
[Modified by: lauragcam on February 25, 2008 02:02 PM]
My boys are called Charlie and Alfie and third would've been Harry Thomas if she hadn't been a girl lol. Top names - choose what YOU want, he's your son, not somebody's dream.
I think we'll decide to ourselves and introduce when were ready - if its said again i might just snap back that were werent consulted when they choose, this is our child and is valuable and we waited along time and we might not be blessed with having more even though even though we want them and that they may like those names for boys but unlike us there is no garentee that will happen we know were having a boy.. sorry ranting now just felt upset that people just cant be happy and say thats a lovely name and we would have used it if we had boys instead of girls.. xx
I am surprised the MIL hasn't stuck her oar in yet...am waiting for it though!
Sarah xx
This put me off as although it was our choice you do want people to like it! So after a lot of deliberation we decided to 'try' Amelia - but in the end went back to Georgia...as i knew that i would be cross if i regretted not going with original choice! She coming up to 5 weeks old and we havent registered name yet (doing it wed)...so could still change my mind!!!!!!!!!!
I definitely think that the way you should look at it is it's your baby & your choice of names no one elses!
It's really difficult to choose a name 7 once you've got one you like & you think you'll be happy hearing for the rest of your life then don't blooming well let anyone else tell you otherwise.
I haven't really been thinking of names as I don't know (and didn't want to know) babys sex so it'll be something else to think about when the LO arrives but at least i've 42 days to decide!
Lauren xx