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Suicide Note
Hi Ladies,
This is not pregnancy related but really need to talk about it. My morning has very quickly turned sour wen i went downstairs to get the post and in there was wat seems to be suicide note from my brother in law to my OH. I rang OH asking if i cud open the letter coz i thought it was from his mum (who we dnt speak to). He agreed and as i started reading we soon realised wat it was. He got straight on the phone to his brother who is on the motorway sumwhere heading down south he said "to stay with a friend". My OH told him not to do anything stupid and his reply was "im not going to mate...yet". Me and BIL avnt really seen eye to eye but im worried now, but part of me cnt help thinking this is some kind of attention seeking activity and im annoyed at him for putting me and OH in this situation. We really dnt know wat to do BIL told OH he'd not brought his phone charger with him and so probably wouldnt be able to contact him for a few days, does this actually mean that he's gona switch his phone off and not switch it back on. Im sat here wondering wat to do and OH is at work worried sick now, to make matters worse BIL is a copper so dnt really think OH wants to go to the police or anything just yet incase it is all abit of attention seeking on his part. Ahh, im so angry with him but worried at the same time. Sorry if this is upsetting for anyone just had to get it off my chest. Kerry xxx
This is not pregnancy related but really need to talk about it. My morning has very quickly turned sour wen i went downstairs to get the post and in there was wat seems to be suicide note from my brother in law to my OH. I rang OH asking if i cud open the letter coz i thought it was from his mum (who we dnt speak to). He agreed and as i started reading we soon realised wat it was. He got straight on the phone to his brother who is on the motorway sumwhere heading down south he said "to stay with a friend". My OH told him not to do anything stupid and his reply was "im not going to mate...yet". Me and BIL avnt really seen eye to eye but im worried now, but part of me cnt help thinking this is some kind of attention seeking activity and im annoyed at him for putting me and OH in this situation. We really dnt know wat to do BIL told OH he'd not brought his phone charger with him and so probably wouldnt be able to contact him for a few days, does this actually mean that he's gona switch his phone off and not switch it back on. Im sat here wondering wat to do and OH is at work worried sick now, to make matters worse BIL is a copper so dnt really think OH wants to go to the police or anything just yet incase it is all abit of attention seeking on his part. Ahh, im so angry with him but worried at the same time. Sorry if this is upsetting for anyone just had to get it off my chest. Kerry xxx
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Hope it works out for the best.
hope it all works out ok xx
i think your BIL would have wrote the note fully aware of the chance that his work would find out, perhaps thats what he wants/needs ?perhaps he is not coping etc and wants you to help him by tellig them as he cant ?
im sorry i obviously dont know the whole situation but i would defintiely report it x keep us updated x
I def agree with the others you should alert the police even if it is just attention seeking it sounds like he might need some help/ support as he doesn't sound like he is coping. A few weeks back a colleague of my husband made a flippant comment at work about how he would commit suicide off the back of a conversation of a sucide recently documented in the papers that they were all discussing.
Well 3 days later his body was found and he had done it in exactly the same way he said he would. My husband and all the colleagues had ignored his comment as 'random' and him just joining in the conversation. They fealt awful after that they didn't pay attention even though I personally dont think anyone would have neccesarily picked up on the comment in that way.
Anyway what im trying to say is I think he needs some sort of help because its not normal to even attention seek like that.
I hope its all ok and that he comes to his senses and doesn't do anything rash.
Vx
good luck xxx
If you don't want to go to police why don't you phone the Samaritans, 08457 909090 or jo@samaritans.org. They're trained to deal with people in possibly suicidal states and they may be able to advise you.
I hope things work out ok x
xxxx
i sound awful i know but i hope it does help you decide what to do. xxx