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need some advise
me and my oh have been together for 4 years now and im pregnant with our first baby
since ive become pregnant he has changes towards me
i have to compete with every thing to get his attention hes always commentin on how other women look and windin me up and callin me fatty (which hurts me)
i bought him an xbow 4 xmas although he has it now and last night he was sortin it out and i was really tierd so asked him 4 a cuddle as i was goin to bedbut he said he was busy
now my family live far away so i cnt exactly just nip round!
any body got any advise as at this point i just wanna walk out n never look back
since ive become pregnant he has changes towards me
i have to compete with every thing to get his attention hes always commentin on how other women look and windin me up and callin me fatty (which hurts me)
i bought him an xbow 4 xmas although he has it now and last night he was sortin it out and i was really tierd so asked him 4 a cuddle as i was goin to bedbut he said he was busy
now my family live far away so i cnt exactly just nip round!
any body got any advise as at this point i just wanna walk out n never look back
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vikki xx
i dont really know what to say either - but if it was me i would try talking - he may not even realise he is hurting you. so a heart to heart may just clear the air as he will understand how you feel (hopefully!) - maybe it is just because all this is new to him, as well as you too, and he doesn't mean to be pushing you away but is doin so until he gets his head round things?! i dunno! men are strange!!
hope i havent rambled on too much. take care xx
I know thats no help but I think it will get easier as time goes on.
sorry! but that would probably be my next step! haha!
my oh has only just started listening to me goin on about baby bits - what to buy etc - even then he not THAT interested - he just tells me to get what i want - or - we got ages yet...stop panicking!
Suppose it just needs time to settle in, and 10 weeks is quite early maybe as time goes by and you get rounder he will really come in to his own. Thats what i'm hoping for anyway, tell you what though, you should never have bought the Xbox, mines not been off his since he had the ruddy thing!!!
vikki xx
Tell him in no uncertain terms how you feel and tell him you are ready to pack and leave.
Shock him out of it.
If you have tried talking sensibly already then this is it.
Maybe that will be his wake up call?
Perhaps go away for a few days and stay with your family and tell him its becuase of the hormones that you need the emotional support??
Just a suggestion.
Good luck and let us know how you get on. xx
If it was me, and i know this isn't how everyone would react but i would go and stay with someone for a few days, then he will take notice of you. I agree with Mrs E, shock him out of it, he shouldn't be treating you like this. If you leave him on his own it will give him some time to think and i bet he'll be on the phone begging you to come home. It will do you good too if he is making you miserable. Sometimes, men need a grand gesture to make them sit up and you are allowed to do a few things out of the ordinary in your condition so I would suggest giving him a taste of his own medicine, tell him you ar going away cos you need so time to think and then see what happens. Bet he buys you a great big Christmas present then!! Good luck sweetie x
I was crying non-stop too and all he'd do was say 'Oh for god's sake' or something! LOL. I can laugh now but at the time it was really upsetting. But now I see I was thinking about the baby all the time & ignoring him as much as he was me. Everyone said 'Oh he'll feel different after ur scan' but at my scan he was distant and seemed to be amazed that such a tiny thing provoked such a huge response of love in me.
I think u should talk to him and try and spend some quality time together, without either of u mentioning the baby - do somethin u did before you got pregnant...just go out & have fun.
It does get better honestly, things have been great lately, he likes talking about the baby too & is desperate to buy more things even though I say no! He even looks at pushchairs online and stuff!
Good luck
Philippa
20+4 x x x
maybe just explain that early preg really takes it outta a woman and he gonna have to help more cos your growing his child (emphasis on the HIS)
paula