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Hi Ladies,
(This is a follow on from prev post regarding going back to work after maternity leave)
I might be sounding selfish here but wen my maternity leave finishes im going back to work full-time. I have worked very hard through 2pregnancies to obtain good a-level results and a discinction level HND so dnt just want to sit back with an "okay, part-time" job. I am in no way disputing those who are full times mums or only work part time, as I have a toddler and know how hard that is. On the other hand I want a career so I can provide the life I want for me and my family, and been a stay at home mum is just not me. Sorry if i sound un-maternal (which i prob am as 1st preg was accident, n 2nd preg came about coz we dint want big age gap), but i believe some people suit and are happy been full time parents, but I know I wudnt be fulfilled if i tried to do it, i think im just way to ambicious and career minded. Just to add, this message was in no way intended to offend anyone or undermind their life choices and i am sorry if u feel i have done this, i just wanted to add my opinion. Kerry xxx
(This is a follow on from prev post regarding going back to work after maternity leave)
I might be sounding selfish here but wen my maternity leave finishes im going back to work full-time. I have worked very hard through 2pregnancies to obtain good a-level results and a discinction level HND so dnt just want to sit back with an "okay, part-time" job. I am in no way disputing those who are full times mums or only work part time, as I have a toddler and know how hard that is. On the other hand I want a career so I can provide the life I want for me and my family, and been a stay at home mum is just not me. Sorry if i sound un-maternal (which i prob am as 1st preg was accident, n 2nd preg came about coz we dint want big age gap), but i believe some people suit and are happy been full time parents, but I know I wudnt be fulfilled if i tried to do it, i think im just way to ambicious and career minded. Just to add, this message was in no way intended to offend anyone or undermind their life choices and i am sorry if u feel i have done this, i just wanted to add my opinion. Kerry xxx
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i was scared this post might make me look like a monster and nearly didnt put it on, but i am interested in other peoples opinions on this matter. Im sure i can find a happy medium between working life and quality time with my babies and can always chose how little or much i want to work wen the time comes, (as after another baby i might feel different, doubt it tho) ha ha ha. Kerry xxx
I admire you for your honesty and certainly think there's nothing wrong with going back to work full-time if that's what you want to do. I was just wondering though, who will look after your lo's when you go back to work? xxxx
My 17mnth old is already in nursary three days a week wile i go uni and he can stay here until he is five. The same nursary takes babies from 3mnths old (I would never dream of putting a baby that young in nursary, however), so new baby will be around 10mnths old wen i go back to work and will have a place here as well. Oh and zoey85 congratulations on ur career i just cnt wait to be out of education and in the "real" world. I have a job in management waiting for me at Balfour Beatty where my dad is project manager, so will have the option of flexibility as well. Theres nuffin wrong with a bit of nepatism, ha ha ha. (My uncles always used to say its who u know not what u know) Kerry xxx
i am only recently a fulltime mum, my girl is 3 and i am preg with second. i am only able to be a fulltime mum cause my oh's wage just about covers things, and i was a single parent when my girl was a baby so had to work as didnt want to be on benefits or anything (as i dont need to be, i am perfectly able to work).
anyway what i wanted to say was i admire those who can work and it is worth their while (my wage only covered nursery costs so it was for nothing really) and i have real problems with mum so had no free childcare.
i have a business degree so have tried in life to get qualifications etc but still i would prefer to be at home with kids. i have always wanted to be a midwife, but i would rather wait until til kids are at least in school, perhaps even high school, because to me, career opportunities will always be there, but my kids wont...i am scared to miss their wee lives, for the sake of a job.
i cant ever imagine only seeing my kids in the evenings, or whatever...fulltime work is just not for me, id be miserable and feel i was missing out on their lives.i didnt have them, in order for someone else to bring them up. sorry if that offends,it is just another view of it.
those mums who work fulltime are showing a good example to their children too, which is great...and some fulltime mums are miserable and grow to resent having to stay at home and not have a career (altho it is hard work too).
so i think it just depends on the individual mum. i love staying at home, and i know i can have time for my career when my kids are older x
ps lauragcam, its funny my background is in business, but since aving babies iv seriously considered moving into midwifery, funny how having kids changes you.
But i do agree with Lauragcam's opinion of being able to have a career when her kids are older... that could work out best all round for me if money permits!
It depends on the mummy! X
where as myself and some of the others on here are happy at home, so our children are happy (in theory).
hope that makes sense sorry. but i do believe that if mum/paretns are happy then children stand more chance of being happy.
each mum is different obviously, and different thigs make us all happy, and our thoughts can change over time too.
it is definitley a big decision, casue we all dont want to look back and regret what we did, but we just have to do what is best for us at the time x
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id love to go back to work full time after baby born, but its not a choice. but im working on it has im thinkin of starting my own business. Ive got two main ideas (all around babies amazingly enough) and i think they should hit off, i just need to do more research before i plunge my savings into it. But hopefully if all goes to plan ill be hiring other pregnant women to help me campaign and it will include baby too.
but lets see where it goes......
sarah 16weeks XXX
nywaymaybe typing it a second time might help make it shorter, i would love to go back to work now as im only 16 weeks but had just started new company when i found out and because hadnt completeed training and was signed off ill (really bad preg symptoms) i lost my job.
but i think ill be ok because im going to start my own business and hopefully make opportunitys for other preg and mums with young ones to work flexible and include their baby too. ive got two ideas but im still researching into them as i want to make sure i stand a good chance with the ideas before i but my money and time into them. lol
i just think mums should be able to work and look after baby whenever they choose, if they wann work, they work if they don't they don't. its about their personality, and they way they are. so wish me luck ladies and ill let you know when its up and running so you can log on to the site im creating and boost my chances of sucess, and your own.lol