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Dummies, I'm confused!
Good evening ladies, hope every one is having a good bank holiday weekend.
I am trying to make sure that I have everything all ready for lo's arrival (only 30 days to go ) and I can't decide what to do about a dummy. I don't like them very much, I hate seeing toddlers with them and all being well I will be breastfeeding again so the advice is not to give one to start with any way. Millie never had one (although we did try a couple of times when she was very unsettled) so I have never planned on using one this time
BUT the latest research suggests that settling with a dummy might cut the risk of cot death so now I am all confused! Baby will be in with us for the first few months, in a cool room, nobody has ever smoked in the house (it was only built last year lol) and he'll be going down on his back so the risk of SIDS should be pretty low anyway, but what would you do?
Cheers girls,
Kerry xx
I am trying to make sure that I have everything all ready for lo's arrival (only 30 days to go ) and I can't decide what to do about a dummy. I don't like them very much, I hate seeing toddlers with them and all being well I will be breastfeeding again so the advice is not to give one to start with any way. Millie never had one (although we did try a couple of times when she was very unsettled) so I have never planned on using one this time
BUT the latest research suggests that settling with a dummy might cut the risk of cot death so now I am all confused! Baby will be in with us for the first few months, in a cool room, nobody has ever smoked in the house (it was only built last year lol) and he'll be going down on his back so the risk of SIDS should be pretty low anyway, but what would you do?
Cheers girls,
Kerry xx
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At the end of the day dummies can be taken away by the dummy fairy, but thumbs and fingers are attached for life!!
I personally don't have any problem using a dummy - up to a certain age. I've been very lucky with all of mine in that by 12-18 months, they were using em only for bed and by 2yrs they were totally weaned. Some babies do fine without them, and settle well etc but some babies are natural sucklers and a dummy does come in handy. A friend of mine refused to use a dummy - she said 'if you can't comfort your baby, your not a good mother'. Now, I'm sorry, we all have our opinions but sometimes, there are those babies that just can't always settle, no matter how much comforting and jiggling you do and I'm sorry, but if a dummy calms them and gives them (and you) some peace, then is it truely a bad thing?
I think, basically, its a personal choice for both you and ur baby. Just don't stress about it if u use one - there's a misplaced stigma on dummies just as there is on breastfeeding....just know you are doing what's best for YOUR baby xxxx
xx