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Have been diagnosed with PND - what do I do now?
Hi everyone,
My hv diagnosed me with PND last week and I am due to see the doctor next week but I don't really know what to do about it. Everyone just keeps telling me I need to get out more and meet more new mums as they will be understanding, but half of the problem is that I feel very anxious about going out and meeting new people. I have always been quite shy anyway but now I feel even worse. I am fine going out and about when I am with my mum or my OH but when I go anywhere by myself (especially in the car) with LO I get very anxious and so end up not doing it.
I am also feeling really crappy about my weight, I still have 2 stone to loose before I get back to my pre-baby weight and now that the sun is here I can't fit into any of my summer clothes and really don't want to go out and buy new clothes in a bigger size.
I feel so guilty as I should be taking Isabelle out for walks and getting her lots of fresh air and to begin with I was doing this and it felt great but now I just keep putting it off for one reason ar another.
What can I do to help myself?
My hv diagnosed me with PND last week and I am due to see the doctor next week but I don't really know what to do about it. Everyone just keeps telling me I need to get out more and meet more new mums as they will be understanding, but half of the problem is that I feel very anxious about going out and meeting new people. I have always been quite shy anyway but now I feel even worse. I am fine going out and about when I am with my mum or my OH but when I go anywhere by myself (especially in the car) with LO I get very anxious and so end up not doing it.
I am also feeling really crappy about my weight, I still have 2 stone to loose before I get back to my pre-baby weight and now that the sun is here I can't fit into any of my summer clothes and really don't want to go out and buy new clothes in a bigger size.
I feel so guilty as I should be taking Isabelle out for walks and getting her lots of fresh air and to begin with I was doing this and it felt great but now I just keep putting it off for one reason ar another.
What can I do to help myself?
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Is your gp going to put you on meds? or would you prefer councelling? x
I have experience of meds and if this is the way the doc reccommends then I would strongly advise that you listen to him. My sis in law didn't listen and contiuned to suffer on her own for two years before she eventually gave in and got help. She is now doing much better on medication.
I tend to find that ppl have a mixed range of feelings about it and although its not something I try to hide from family and friends I don't tend to talk about it much. Do talk to your oh tho coz it is a very difficult time for him too and alot of ppl forget that he is going through this too.
If you take tablets they will take a few weeks to take effect and you may even feel a bit flat for a while but stick with it.
Do try to get out if you can coz the longer you leave it the worse you will be. I know how you feel about the weight and clothes etc but tbh if you do buy yourself one or two cheaper pieces you will feel better coz you look better if you know what I mean. If you plan on any more children look at it that you can wear them again after them or sell them on e bay.
Keep chatting to the girls on here coz when your having a down day just writing it down is a relief sometimes.
Sorry for the long post!!! It is a subject close to my heart as I have suffered twice (have 3 kids) so I know where your at.
Regarding the weight issue, I went out yesterday and got 2 baggy vest tops from H & M and a couple of skirts. It cost me about ??35, but because they hide a lot of my fat, I do feel more confident wearing them. Just have to stop the anxiety attacks now and deal with the profuse sweating!
I seem to be going on a bit but i know how you feel. I struggle to take Holly walks on my own as well.
As with the weight, i;m still heavier as well. I saw that Diane had said about a post natal DVD. If anyone knows where i could get one can they let me know.
Take care, everyone is here to support you and each other
I didn't see the doctor in the end, the day of my appointment she had rang in sick - the irony!! I know I need to make another appointment but haven't got round to it as it means sitting on the phone trying to get through for ages!
It helps to come on here and talk - it is amazing how much easier it is when you are typing away rather than actually saying at aloud!
Please take care and keep in touch. I find it good to share with people who are going through the same