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I'm doing a real life wife swap lol
Not in the sexual sense for all you dirty minded ladies out there lol
Basically my oh's sil is a right lazy cow! They had a little girl 5 months ago and since then she basically does nothing. She has been pestering my bil to move house, so to keep her happy they moved right next door to her mum and sisiter, having to increase their mortgage by a furthur ??60,000 and then she decided to tell him the day they moved in that she wasnt going back to work after maternity finishs (5th July) He now works every hour god send to pay for this house and she basically sit son her arse! You might think with a baby to look after she would be busy but she gets baby sitters all the time, does no house work, doesn't cook (we went round the other day and his bro was eating fairy cakes dipped in gravy, after doing a 14 hour shift, cause he was too tired to cook) She was having tea at her mums,as she does every day. Oh and she has now decided she is going to have weekends off (i.e he has to have the baby all weekend) How the f##k do you have time off with a baby? their not a pet! Well anyway his bro has been with her so long he doesnt know any different, so his mum after getting really upset and angry at how ill and with drawn her son is, has asked me if i would swap places with her for a few days to show his bro when life should be like. Don't get me wrong i'm not old fashioned but i do think that if your oh (male or female) is working alot you should cook them a meal and stuff when they get home. My oh is pretty pampered i must admit but thats my own choice. Anyway what do you think? obviously i will be coming home at the end of the day (i'll kill her if my house is a mess when i get home lol)
Basically my oh's sil is a right lazy cow! They had a little girl 5 months ago and since then she basically does nothing. She has been pestering my bil to move house, so to keep her happy they moved right next door to her mum and sisiter, having to increase their mortgage by a furthur ??60,000 and then she decided to tell him the day they moved in that she wasnt going back to work after maternity finishs (5th July) He now works every hour god send to pay for this house and she basically sit son her arse! You might think with a baby to look after she would be busy but she gets baby sitters all the time, does no house work, doesn't cook (we went round the other day and his bro was eating fairy cakes dipped in gravy, after doing a 14 hour shift, cause he was too tired to cook) She was having tea at her mums,as she does every day. Oh and she has now decided she is going to have weekends off (i.e he has to have the baby all weekend) How the f##k do you have time off with a baby? their not a pet! Well anyway his bro has been with her so long he doesnt know any different, so his mum after getting really upset and angry at how ill and with drawn her son is, has asked me if i would swap places with her for a few days to show his bro when life should be like. Don't get me wrong i'm not old fashioned but i do think that if your oh (male or female) is working alot you should cook them a meal and stuff when they get home. My oh is pretty pampered i must admit but thats my own choice. Anyway what do you think? obviously i will be coming home at the end of the day (i'll kill her if my house is a mess when i get home lol)
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Like your brother i think he has just got so used to it, he's only 26 but has been with her for 10 years so never known anything different. My oh has sat him down and said that he is in the same situation my oh was in before he met me. He was with his ex wife from being 15, they got married when he was 23 and she basically did nothing but run debts up. She left him the year later after having an affair and left him in a right state financially. When i got with him he couldnt believe what life could be like. Don't get me wrong im not super women but my house is always clean and our son is well looked after and my oh is always fed when he's done a long shift at work. We've been together for 6 years now and have a lovely home and fmaily. I just feel so sorry for his brother as he's such a lovely lad, he actually broke down in tears the other day, because she was having a go at him for not providing enough money for them (with a massive mortgage and a single income, how is he meant to) oh god she drives me mad!!
But I think thats a great idea, I hope your BIL manages to realise he deserves better treatment then that xxxxx
I believe its about equal partnership though and we share the chores I've listed above, we both work full time so why is it that the wife is expected to do all the wife'y things? Sorry if I sound defensive, just made me think and I do feel guilty that perhaps I don't do enough.... But then we share this house!!
[Modified by: MrsT on May 31, 2008 12:39 PM]
I've just finished work (taking 6 weeks annual leave before my maternity) and to be honest i've done alot more since i finished, as i get so bored.
x x
2 wks to go!!!
I dont think i have ever seem him without their daughter, he constantly has her, but surely they should be spending some time together as a family?
I must admit it helps me though cause my mil thinks i'm a saint lol as she only has 2 boys and im the total opposite!
I do think that it will all blow up soon though, as i think my mil has had enough of seeing her son so down. She usuallly bites her lip and doesnt say anything to his other half but think shes taking it to far now! x