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Why me??
I think the nasty witch is coming back (my pnd)
I have had the worst 2 days ever and i have done nothing but cry and mope about today.
Matthew has cried all day long. I ended up phoning my HV in tears cos i just didnt know what to do. (she is coming to see me on friday which is ages away!!) Luckily my OH was off work today and took off me for a bit but it didnt really help tbh.
I just dont know what to do with him anymore. He gets up and is happy until his breakfast at 8.30. then he cries until 11 and has a bottle then falls asleep for 20 mins. then cries until 2pm when he has his dinner, then has another 20min nap and cries until tea time, then until he goes in the bath!! If i dont have a hold of him he screams! I am seriously rwady to just walk away cos i really cant cope at the moment. I know that sounds awful but i'm with him 24/7 and i hardly get a break! i cant go to family cos they all work and so do my friends. so i am practically alone all sodding week!!
Also, we built joshuas big boy bed today and he wouldnt go to sleep in it so we ended up putting him back in his cot and when he fell asleep we put him in his bed!
Life is so SHIT right now and i really have had enough!!!
I have had the worst 2 days ever and i have done nothing but cry and mope about today.
Matthew has cried all day long. I ended up phoning my HV in tears cos i just didnt know what to do. (she is coming to see me on friday which is ages away!!) Luckily my OH was off work today and took off me for a bit but it didnt really help tbh.
I just dont know what to do with him anymore. He gets up and is happy until his breakfast at 8.30. then he cries until 11 and has a bottle then falls asleep for 20 mins. then cries until 2pm when he has his dinner, then has another 20min nap and cries until tea time, then until he goes in the bath!! If i dont have a hold of him he screams! I am seriously rwady to just walk away cos i really cant cope at the moment. I know that sounds awful but i'm with him 24/7 and i hardly get a break! i cant go to family cos they all work and so do my friends. so i am practically alone all sodding week!!
Also, we built joshuas big boy bed today and he wouldnt go to sleep in it so we ended up putting him back in his cot and when he fell asleep we put him in his bed!
Life is so SHIT right now and i really have had enough!!!
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mummyheather - dont worry about joshua in the bed business - i think it is very normal to do it - bothe my boys were very excited but when bedtime came, they wanted their cot. i did just what you did - in cot, asleep, move them out, and within a week they were getting in their own bed, not cot. it will come, so dont worry about it. if you make a big deal with it, it could make him worse.
i really hope you are feeling much better soon.
nicki
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Fortunately for me the nasty witch has never paid me a visit so I really don't know what else to suggest but i couldn't just read and run when you sound so down. Could you see your GP before Friday? Maybe you're just having a bad couple of days when you're knackered and everything gets on top of you. You have 2 small boys to run around after (who love you to pieces) so don't be too hard on yourself.
Don't think you're awful for wanting to walk away, every mum feels like that sometimes.
As for the bed, personally I wouldn't even try again til you've had chance to talk to someone and decide if the bitchwitch is back or you're just having a rough few days, another week or 2 won't make much difference.
Hope you get something sorted soon, we ORDER you to come on here and get things off your chest when you need to don't we girls?
xx
So sorry to hear you are having such a bad few days.I am in the process of having counselling for my pnd - do you know if you can have this in your area?.I know it sounds a bit wishy washy and not very practical but it has helped me so much I just can't believe it myself.
Firstly you are doing so well coping with 2 very small children and having pnd at the same time.It may be just that you are having a bad few days it may not mean that the pnd is back.You have done so well to contact the HV even though she can't come till friday - well done you - pat yourself on the back.I find asking for help almost impossible.
Do you know if they do homestart in your area - its a fantastic idea you get a visit from someone for so many hours a week and they will help you with looking after the children or just provide a friendly face.I was offered this help but I didn;t take it up.!!
Things that have helped me are
1.Thinking about the good stuff you do during the day and not the negative stuff.
2. Get out of the house even to the coffee shop or a baby group or a walk to the park.Your little one may fall asleep for longer in the pushchair and give you a rest.He sounds like he has trouble getting into a long sleep during the day.
3.Make time for yourself even a soak in the bath or something ( good advice I should do it myself!!)
4Try to do stuff to make your life easier.
5 Don't worry about what other people think.
xxxxMelaniexxxxx
[Modified by: melanie M on June 10, 2008 09:44 PM]
Regarding moving from cot to bed - with our 3 older ones, we took one side of the cot off for a while so they got used to there not being something all the way round them. Maybe give that a try, it mite make the transition a little easier.
Take care and hope you get some help xxx