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i am scared!!!!
I have wanted children for as long as i can remember, always loved kids and even became i primary school teacher to work with kids. When my hubby proposed in 2006 ever since then i couldnt wait to start to TTC and i think ive always been broody if thats possible?
I know having a baby will be the most amazing thing ever to happen to me and its something i always wanted but its such a life changing experience...maybe im scared of change??? Is it normal to feel like this??? Is it becasue it happened so quickly??? Am i a terrible person??
Anyway, we started trying last month after our wedding n we were blessed 1st month with BFP!!! I feel so lucky BUT...
I know having a baby will be the most amazing thing ever to happen to me and its something i always wanted but its such a life changing experience...maybe im scared of change??? Is it normal to feel like this??? Is it becasue it happened so quickly??? Am i a terrible person??
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Its normal to feel like that, but you will be fine. Its prob cos it happened straight away for you and its taking a while to sink in! Congrats on your BFP!
Sharon x
just think positive, love melissa 36+6
I've been getting very tearful since I got my BFP and very emotional too. I get moments of "Oh god, if I have to have 12 hours sleep now, how will I cope with a baby" even though rationally I know I'm only tired now because I'm pregnant.
I think we all have moments of doubt. But that doesn't make you a bad human - it just makes you human. I bet you had moments before you started teaching wondering if you could do it, didn't you? But you know really that you're good at that, and getting better all the time? I bet motherhood is just the same.
Firstly, congratulations on your BFP! I felt just like this when I fell pregnant on our 1st month of trying. I think I was so shocked because I thought it would take so much longer after coming off the pill. It'll take a while to sink in, but I'm sure you'll soon feel excited too! I'm almost 23 weeks now and am still a little nervous as it's our first baby and I probably don't know quite what to expect, but I'm also very excited.
Sarah xx
I had a panic that we wouldn't be able to go travelling to new zealand the other week, i had images of me and hubby in our seventies trying to climb mountains to see the scenery! The truth is even if we didn't have a baby on the way we wouldn't be off to new zealand anyway coz it's just a dream.
I don't think that having children stops you doing to much anyway, if you've got a dog then you'll be restricted anyway.
xxx
Im starting to realise it is natural to feel like this, even tho it doesnt stop me worrying. I dont know about you but i also get horrible dreams where i leave the baby somewhere and cant find it. I hate talking about it too because i feel guilty and think people will assume i dont want the baby but i do.
I think we all understand exactly where you are coming from and there is nothing wrong feeling like this. All my friends have said once you have that baby you will love it like you never thought you could love something and your mummy instinct will just kick in.
Good luck with your pregnancy xxx
Anna
I have always dreamed of being a mum and was so excited to have met my wondeful husband and got married as this meant for me that we could look forward to being parents... but I keep thinking about all the things that will be different after the baby is here and all the things we wont be able to do e.g. take off travelling round the world, do exactly what we want when we want, sleep!!!, etc.
For me I think its the surprise factor that makes me think so much about things we will miss, for example we didnt even get the chance to go out for a romantic dinner (with wine!!!) since our honeymoon before we found out we were expecting. We havent been married 5 mins and already things will change beyond all recognition.
Having said all this I am so excited to meet my baby and feel quite confident about being a mum. I know my husband will be a fabulous dad so we will be ok and will probably find that we love each other even more! The idea of us being 'a family' is way more exciting than any trip or night out!
We'll all be fine, despite our worries. I'm sure its all as wondeful as people say! We are all very lucky.
Best of luck all x x x