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miscarriage-just wanted to ramble on a bit
I have been posting on the pregnancy forum for a little while, about a suspected miscarriage, which was confirmed yesterday. I had my miscarriage at 6 weeks, though i suspect that it atarted at 5. One thing that annoys me is that i found out i was pregnant on christmas eve because i went to the doctor with unbearable back pain, and bad stomach cramps. He did a test to confirm i was pregnant, but did not even mention that i could be miscarrying. I spent the next week getting so excited, as my OH and I have been TTC for over 1 year. Then the inevitable heavy blood loss etc followed after that on new years day.
Even though we only knew for one week, and the pregnancy was still new, I cant believe how upset i am. I am posting here as i have no close friends or family in the same city as me, and i really feel like i need to let it out. I was going to talk to mum, but she said 'oh well, at least it wasnt that old' I can see what she means, but to me, even though it wasnt a fully formed baby, i feel like i have lost my baby. My partner is also upset, but it is difficult to talk fully with him, as he doesnt like to discuss difficult things.
Being logical, i know that it was just one of those things, but i keep wondering why it happened to me. I dont smoke, dont drink alcohol or caffeine, and exercise regularly. Its not fair. I cant really concentrate at work, and i keep thinking about what could have been. I am still bleeding lightly and i hope that stops soon.
I am grateful for the fact that i didnt lose my baby at a later date, like 10 weeks, as some people have here, and for the fact that i had a natural miscarriage and didnt need any medical intervention.
My partner and I are continuing TTC, and i think that i may be pinning to much on conceiving this month, as i heard that you may be more fertile in the following month a miscarriage.
I guess that all us ladies can do who have suffered this, is to keep trying.
If you have made it this far, then thanks for reading
xxxxxxx
Even though we only knew for one week, and the pregnancy was still new, I cant believe how upset i am. I am posting here as i have no close friends or family in the same city as me, and i really feel like i need to let it out. I was going to talk to mum, but she said 'oh well, at least it wasnt that old' I can see what she means, but to me, even though it wasnt a fully formed baby, i feel like i have lost my baby. My partner is also upset, but it is difficult to talk fully with him, as he doesnt like to discuss difficult things.
Being logical, i know that it was just one of those things, but i keep wondering why it happened to me. I dont smoke, dont drink alcohol or caffeine, and exercise regularly. Its not fair. I cant really concentrate at work, and i keep thinking about what could have been. I am still bleeding lightly and i hope that stops soon.
I am grateful for the fact that i didnt lose my baby at a later date, like 10 weeks, as some people have here, and for the fact that i had a natural miscarriage and didnt need any medical intervention.
My partner and I are continuing TTC, and i think that i may be pinning to much on conceiving this month, as i heard that you may be more fertile in the following month a miscarriage.
I guess that all us ladies can do who have suffered this, is to keep trying.
If you have made it this far, then thanks for reading
xxxxxxx
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Sorry to hear your sad news. I started bleeding at 5 weeks too, but they didn't know I'd miscarried until I was 7+5.
It's a very difficult time emotionally, you're hormones are all over the place and having been on cloud 9 you've landed with a bit of a bump. Hang in there, it does get easier. And if you need to talk, we're all here for you!
Hugs! x
You are not alone in how you feel. I miscarried at 5 weeks at the end of November and I can't believe how utterly devasted I felt. My hubbie bottled everything up (as men do!) but I now know how awful he felt.
I too had only known about a week when I started to miscarry but it doesn't matter how long you have known for. I started looking at prams, we talked about names and we discussed how we were going to tell everyone on Christmas day. You go from a huge high to a terrible low in a very short space of time.
This forum was great for me. Hubbie and I have started TTC again and that is the one thing that keeps me going.
Stay on here and talk. All the ladies here know what you have been through.
C.xx
Hang in there and talk as much as you need we are all here xxx
Really send my thoughts and best wishes to you all...and keep trying!
Nooniem
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