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is there anything effective I can do?
Okay I am so incredible grumpy with my family in general and just wanted an outside opinion. Today was my second daughter's 3rd birthday, and nobody not my mother, mil, any of my four siblings, or my husband's 6 siblings or the masses of extended family remembered again! Every year for my eldest daughter's birthday they send loads of gifts. For my eldest daughters birthday she received 47 birthday cards and does every year, but this is the third year in a row every last one of them has imo completely ignored my second daughter. I feel so incredibly bad for her. Luckily she is a little young to notice too much but she has been really looking forward to getting cards in the post like her big sister did and she hasn't had one... so I bought her two, but still... Last year I organized a big party for her since everyone had "forgotten" her first birthday, and sent out invites 6 weeks in advance and then reminders ten days before, and nobody showed up and yet on my eldest daughters birthday she had nearly thirty family members fly in uninvited from all over to see her. I just don't get it it makes me sooo mad. She had a great day today and has been thrilled to pieces so in that way it doesn't matter but I am quite worried what will happen over time. Is there anything I can actually do that might be effective. I sent out an email saying please feel free to call and chat with her this evening because it would absolutely make her day to her from you as it's her birthday yesterday for today to family members and she still didn't receive one call. Part of me wants to be really cross, and the other art of me just doesn't want to make things worse.
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Hope she still had a lovely birthday. xxx
I think you are right I won't bother sending cards this year, it will save a small fortune, and would be a nice way to make a point.
Thank you
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Its soo hard when kids are treated differently (in my case its a bit different) but it still hurts.
Thank you so much everyone for your support
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i have to agree with the other ladies in that i would rather neither daughter get tons of cards than just one of them. its so rude!! is aurelia your middle daughter? how do they behave towards your youngest?
i wouldn't be going to your sil's for her lads birthday anyway. all children should be treated equally in the family.
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I have an aunt and uncle who only send cards to the eldest child - not sure why but I only realised when I was old enough to understand when my Mum told me. BUT - that was only them so I didn't notice because everyone else remembered. They dont have any children of their own.
This is totally different as everyone on both sides of the family seem to be totally ignoring your childs birthday. What happened at christmas?
As your phone calls have not been responded to I would write to everyone explaining how upset your daughter is. Especially considering the way you get treated if you forget to post a card! The other thing to do, although it would not be nice for your eldest, is to return the cards they send for her next birthday - but as I said that wouldn't be nice for your daughter so not really a good idea, just a thought!
My mil gave me a list of people to send christmas cards to this year.....