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how long can you let a baby cry for before picking them up?
Jessica is 18 days old. she does suffer from trapped wind so at the mo shes on the infacol.
after her nighttime feeds me and hubby have trouble winding her. can be trying for 30 mins even longer.
when we do manage to get a burp out of her and we put her down in crib all sleepy, she starts crying. i try to leave her but not sure how long for.
help!
Jessica is 18 days old. she does suffer from trapped wind so at the mo shes on the infacol.
after her nighttime feeds me and hubby have trouble winding her. can be trying for 30 mins even longer.
when we do manage to get a burp out of her and we put her down in crib all sleepy, she starts crying. i try to leave her but not sure how long for.
help!
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She cried for about an hour and a quarter for 3 nights, EACH time I put her down after a feed and then it calmed down.
We have had sleep problems ever since but generally, she never cries for more than about 20 minutes now (if she is in a strop!) but most of the time, not at all! However, occasionally she will try it on and we had another hour and a quarter just a few weeks back!
The HV and Doctor told me that a baby will generally not cry for more than an hour and a half. As long as there is nothing else wrong obviously (winding, feeeding, nappy, right temperature etc...).
It's awful but definitely worth it in the end, although 18 days is very young. My HV told me to do it when Ruby was just 2 weeks old though. I just couldn't though!
It depends how strong you are hun, it is so hard to let them cry, even now Ruby is 6 months old on Wednesday and I find it so so hard to let her cry!
I hope you get it sorted and I have helped a little.
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I know it's really hard as for the first 6 weeks Poppy hardly slept at all, she had really bad colic & reflux and would sleep for 10 mins at a time during the day. She only woke at night every 3.5 hours to be fed but it would take well over an hour to settle her each time.
My mum told me never to put her to bed when she was already asleep - it was the best piece of advice I received as now when she does wake, she settles herself within a couple of mins.
I hope you get it sorted soon.
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Go with your heart thought honey, if your heart is telling you to pick her up then I would. Follow your insticnt. Better to have a child who knows that their mummy will come when they need/want something that a chld who grows up to think that mummy ignores them and doesn't come.
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If you have covered all options and are at the end of your tether then leaving them sometimes can be the only option. But I wouldn't recommend it too often.
Controlled crying is about a method of getting a baby to sleep on their own and you are just teaching them to fall asleep on their own ,but it is only for when they are older I would say between 6-9 months ?
With this method you keep going back to the baby and comforting them every 2 - 5 mins not leaving them for long periods.
The pick up put down method is also a kinder way to do it.
But the best bit of advice is to get them falling asleep on their own.I found patting my lo when she was really tiny was very effective way of calming and getting her off to sleep in her moses basket.
Good luck
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when he was tiny i would cuddle him to sleep but once he was about 8-10 weeks he went in his own room and settled himself. i would leave him whinging for up to 10 mins but if he ever started bawling i would go in and comfort him. but i never pick him up once he's in bed..unless he's pooed or something. im lucky though that he is more of a whinger than a cryer.
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Best of luck
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