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Waiting for my D&C and scared
I just discovered today that i had a missed miscarriage,i shall meet the anaethesiologist on Wednesday for investigations then perhaps have it on Thursday or Friday.
I am so scared that it will happen by itself before that, i am not prepared for the bleeding and the pain
I am so scared that it will happen by itself before that, i am not prepared for the bleeding and the pain
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I am so, so sorry for your loss and that you are having to go through this.
I don't have any wise words right now but wanted to reply and wish you all the best.
Take care, NN xx
I was worried about that happening to me too as I got to almost 13 weeks before I had any sign of bleeding or anything. I went for an emergency scan when my bleeding started but my erpc wasn't booked in for another 4 days (had it yesterday) so I was worried it would start on its own especially when I woke up in the night with really bad pains but it was all ok.
I really don't know as I don't have a medical background or anything but I know for myself I started to think that the chances of it happening on its own were probably quite slim because my body had held on to the baby this long already (almost 5 weeks) so I think would have needed help one way or another.
The consultant also gave me the option to go home and let it happen naturally but told me it would take 2-3 weeks so if you imagine that it takes that long then the chances are that it won't all happen in a couple of days while you wait for your appointment.
Try not to worry about it all as I'm sure you'll be fine. If things did start to happen and you started having bad pains then get to A&E or ring your doctors and something can be done - you won't have to go through it on your own if you don't want to. If you need some more advice you would always ring the miscarriage association. I don't have their number but they have a website if you put it in google.
I hope everything goes ok for you and I'm sorry this has happened to you.
That happened to me naturally the night before i was due in hospital, please dont be scared of the pain it really isnt that bad, i remember posting this for faithm, it is like a heavy period with bad cramps.
I do hope things go the way you plan, thinking of you hun
*Hugs*
XxX
I had my D&C finally, it was much better than i thought, and the nurses and doctors were wonderful and really nice and gentle (that really helped me emotionally), i have bad cramps (worse than period pains) and bleeding, but i am some how relieved that it is over.
I thank you again for your support, i really neede it
Hugs and kisses to all of you
Renee
Anyway, hope you are ok. Thinking of you and OH.
Gemma xxx
Well, i keep trying to be strong, but i still have my daily fit of crying.
My mother had 2 miscarriages before she had me and she says that she never forgot her two lost babies or how she felt, so i guess we will have to learn to accept it and to try to move on.
Physically, i wasnt having much bleeding after my D&C, but today i had the worst cramps i have ever felt in my entire life, much worse than period pains, and i had to take loads of painkillers.
Dont worry about next time please, one thing i learnt from my experience is that worrying doesnt help at all, i was having weekly scans, i started taking my prenatal vitamins one year ago, i was eating healthy, and no physical stress whatsoever, and still miscarried.
Perhaps when we get pregnant again it would be much better to just try to forget about it(i know easier said than done) but i feel as if i aged 10 years with all the stress i had during this pregnancy.
Please tell me how are you doing?
Waiting to hear from you
Hugs
Renee
Hubby still decorated what will be the nursery and we still made the trip to the baby shop we were going to on Tuesday.
I actually gave your advice about hubby and making sure he was looked after to someone else on here the other day. Fab advice. It really helped.
Please keep in touch. I may not be able to help much but its good to talk!
Gemma xxx
Just wanted to send you some hugs and say I hope the pain eases really soon.
Take care, love NN xx