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what to do when other children snatch from your child?....
hi there...
wondered if anyone felt the same as me or has any tips!
im a stay at home mum and have taught my little boy never to snatch and take things from other children (he's 20 months old). he's such a good boy and never does this.... He always waits so patiently for toys when others are playing with them and he shares all his toys etc......
it infuriates me when other children (at toddler groups or friends houses) just simply snatch toys from him.. as he looks so upset and devistated. Or they say 'mine' ... 'no, its not yours'... etc
I know kids will try these things and dont mean any harm but the mothers never seem to tell their children!
I know its also their toys sometimes but they should all be told to learn to share!... drives me mad.. because my son is so good with it.
Any ideas?.. feels too awkard to tell other peoples kids to give the toys back.. but then I feel im letting him down and letting others do it to him when he never does this to anyone else.
Is it just me???
wondered if anyone felt the same as me or has any tips!
im a stay at home mum and have taught my little boy never to snatch and take things from other children (he's 20 months old). he's such a good boy and never does this.... He always waits so patiently for toys when others are playing with them and he shares all his toys etc......
it infuriates me when other children (at toddler groups or friends houses) just simply snatch toys from him.. as he looks so upset and devistated. Or they say 'mine' ... 'no, its not yours'... etc
I know kids will try these things and dont mean any harm but the mothers never seem to tell their children!
I know its also their toys sometimes but they should all be told to learn to share!... drives me mad.. because my son is so good with it.
Any ideas?.. feels too awkard to tell other peoples kids to give the toys back.. but then I feel im letting him down and letting others do it to him when he never does this to anyone else.
Is it just me???
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One kid one day ran up behind cole and pushed him over and i was so shocked i never said anything - wish i had though cause her mother just sat there chatting and never told her off!
Definately stick up for your lo if you think someone else's kid has taken a toy unfairly - the little buggers have to learn from somewhere to share and if their parents aren't going to teach them then then i guess someone needs to. Not had any angry parents having a go at me for sticking up for my boy yet!!
Ok what I do is tell the child very loudly(so the parent can hear !!) that your child had it first and please give it back as its not nice to snatch and they wouldnt like it if it was done to them??? If that dont work then try my joking comment lol!!! nah I would see the mother or just try and get if back nicely but firmly from the little brat that took it !!!
I have noticed alot of mums at toddler groups dont bother to sort it out even when they see their child snatching.... why do they think its acceptable?? I was always brought up to wait my turn and share and so pass that on to my kids.
At toddler groups it's hard sometimes to keep an eye on both your children at the same time and if I see him doing something he shouldn't I tell him straight away. Quite often the other mum will say don't worry as their lo has moved on to something else but thats not the POINT!
I would like my child to be a kind child and snatching is something that most children will go through but that doesn't make it ok! I'm mortified if my child does anything really horrid like shoving. I have been in a position when other parents have told my child off and its completely acceptable. I appreciate it because they are backing up good manners in my child. Also it is likely that my child will obey the other parent more than he would me! If my child doesn't do as he asks i would step in and reiterate whatever he was being told as i wouldn't expect someone else to discipline my child. if the matter was resolved I would thank them for resolving it and apologise for the behaviour. They then know you are at least aware of what happened and that you don't mind that they had to say something to your child. It is difficult to be aware of what your child is doing all the time if you are chatting or pre-occupied with a younger one.
Recently I saw a child snatch a toy off a younger one and i said 'thats not very nice he was playing with that could you please give it back.' he just turned around and said no! He carried on playing with the toy and I didn't know how to follow that up. It wasn't my lo and I could hardly 'snatch' the toy back or insist on it as it wasn't my child either. It was also my first day at a new playgroup so i didn't know the mum and so i just left it but it is a horrible feeling that i let the lo down!
i do think that every child goes through that stage but some kids are worse thhan others and they do need to be told that it is wrong otherwise they think it is ok.....
xx
chuffedbaby..omg what a rude dad. i'd have let cole play anyway if there were plenty of bricks but i'm arsy like that lol.
I was very annoyed today - took cole to the playground on the way home and it has a small section fenced off for little kids and there were 4 boys around 7 or 8 playing in there being quite rough on the seesaw and its not right that parents let them in there when there were little kids in there. i made a loud comment about cole not to go near the bigger rough boys but i guess i didn't say it loud enough for the parents to hear - they were sat on a bench in the other bit with tea and biscuits!
After some bad experiences my almost 3yo son thinks that when another child approach him they would snatch it away from him. He would be realy upset when someone touches what he is holding and doesn't like other children coming to our house for playdates with him.