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Giving baby Dads sirname - changing mine?
Hi guys
Me and o/h are not married. We have been together on and off for 9 years but cant get married for financial reasons. My o/h owns a company and if we were married and the company went bankrupt then we could face losing all our personal assets whch are currently in my name.
Up until now I have always had my Dads sirname and this is the sirname my 12 year old boy uses.
I will be giving baby Bertie my o/h's sirname.
My o/h wants me to change my sirname so that I have his sirname and I have the same name as Bertie which would make things easier for when Bertie is at school etc.
My Dad died in January and my 12yr old would keep my Dads sirname as it would carry on my Dads name and that would make my Dad happy.
I am unsure whether to remove my sirname completely or have it as a middle name and put o/h's sirname at the end.
I am seriously considering doing this before Bertie is born, it is really easy to do online its just agro changing it with the banks etc.
What do you think? Has anyone else considered doing this?
Gxx
25+5
Me and o/h are not married. We have been together on and off for 9 years but cant get married for financial reasons. My o/h owns a company and if we were married and the company went bankrupt then we could face losing all our personal assets whch are currently in my name.
Up until now I have always had my Dads sirname and this is the sirname my 12 year old boy uses.
I will be giving baby Bertie my o/h's sirname.
My o/h wants me to change my sirname so that I have his sirname and I have the same name as Bertie which would make things easier for when Bertie is at school etc.
My Dad died in January and my 12yr old would keep my Dads sirname as it would carry on my Dads name and that would make my Dad happy.
I am unsure whether to remove my sirname completely or have it as a middle name and put o/h's sirname at the end.
I am seriously considering doing this before Bertie is born, it is really easy to do online its just agro changing it with the banks etc.
What do you think? Has anyone else considered doing this?
Gxx
25+5
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My o/h is in a trade and employs about 14 blokes. If he doesnt get paid by a developer for work done that he's already paid his employees to do and the wholesalers for the parts then he may have to go bankrupt. It not so bad at the mo as he has lots of money due in but there is always a risk.
If he goes bankrupt and we are married then we could lose our house, cars, Dads inheritence everything in order to pay his creditors. So long as we arent married then everything is safely in my name.
I assure you as soon as he closes down the business then we will be going to a tropical island somewhere and getting married but until then we cant.
Gxx
Maria - my o/h said we could tell everyone we had got married but I think thats going a little far lol. He calls me his wife though which is sweet. My older son will get a choice on whether to change his name too but as he was very close to my Dad I think he'll want to keep his name.
Wannabeamummy - Ill try to get a message to snowangel - Thanks
Gxx
You can change your name my deed poll really easily - it only costs about ??30 ish too.
We got married last year and i coul;dn't face losing my maiden name - its kinda who I am, so i have a double barrelled name. i was going to have my maiden name as a middle name but opted for double barrelled. Baby will have hubbys / married name so I'll half the first part of my surname the same as baby.
Why not have both names then you'll have part of the same name as both your children.
Lisa
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Anyway - to the topic in question.... GeorgieD I have replied in due in June 09 forum but i'll paste it in here for you too!
I'm engaged to my partner but we aren't getting married until 2011 (due to babies on the way & money!). The babies are going to have my partners surname and basically I wanted the same surname as them from the start so we were like a family. It would also mean that the birth certificate would have everyone's surname on as the same.
I have kept my title as Miss but just changed my surname via this service http://www.ukdps.co.uk/
If you click on that link it will give you all the info you need about changing your surname. It's really easy to do and you can do it online. There are various websites offering a cheaper service but they are not guarenteed to be accepted by banks etc - so this being the 'official one' was the safest option. It cost me about ??53 in total (which included 8 legal signed copies) You need legal copies to send off to companies telling them you have changed your name, rather than sending the original and waiting for it to come back.
When we do get married in a couple of years, I won't need to renew my passport again which is great (as your passport doesn't have your title on). I've changed my driving license (this was due for renewal anyway so perfect timing!) I've already told my banks, mortgage company etc and it's all been changed now. It took about 2 weeks to get everything sorted and I didn't have any problems with this service.
As for your Dad's surname - you can change your name to whatever you want! You can change your first, middle and last name if you want to or add names. It's a nice idea to keep your dad's name in there somewhere but up to you how you do that. It's nice that your 12 yr old is going to keep his surname - so if you don't change yours, your dad's name is being passed through him.
I changed my surname when I was 25 ish weeks and it's not caused any problems, just had to make sure I told the midwives and hospital too! If you are going to do it, i'd do it asap so it's all done and dusted before your little one is born....
Hope that has helped.... Anymore questions, feel free to ask!
xx
[Modified by: snowangel on April 30, 2009 01:20 PM]
K xx
15+2
[Modified by: snowangel on April 30, 2009 01:28 PM]
I think its costs about ??100 to get one set up through Companies House (UK national site) and then you're safe as houses! This is what we had to do before we got married a couple of years ago.
Then all you'd have to think about is the name issue!
Just another idea x
Thanks for your responses, I have been online to deed poll and submitted the application and ive kept my current surname as a middle name.
Mybutler - we made my o/h's company into a limited company a couple of years ago but until the company name builds up enough credit all of the debts are classed as personal debts as my o/h has to give personal guarantees so we are not safe for a little while yet.
Thanks again guys, I was a little nervous as my bosses wife changed her name and they werent married and a few people made comments about it so I wasnt sure if people would think it was silly. The majority of people I have spoken to say its a good idea so im happy with that and you know what so long as me and my o/h are happy with it then thats all that matters.
Gxx
You are right, as long as you and oh are happy that's what matters! Hope everything goes smoothly for you! xx
[Modified by: snowangel on April 30, 2009 01:53 PM]
Maybe you could double barrell your name so both your children will have your surname?? x x
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MKB 23+4
Gxx
25+5
Yes - if he is comfortable with the idea, go for it! Sounds like a lovely idea!!
xxx MKB 23+4