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Devastated to be joining you
Hi Ladies,
Firstly I wanted to say how sorry I am for your losses. I can now really understand what it feels like to lose a child.
I was pregnant with my 2nd baby and all was going well after some difficult early weeks, everything had settled down well at 10 weeks and I was told that my pregnancy was normal and no complications were expected. I felt well and had seen my consultant just Thursday last week.
Sadly my waters broke on Tuesday evening unexpextantly and although it was hoped that my baby could stay inside for a few more weeks, I went into premature labour yesterday morning and delivered my beautiful but tiny daughter Grace, at just 24+1. She weighed just 750g and was cared for by a fantastic team in special care. We know that everything possible was done for our daughter but she simply was not ready to enter the world and after a very short life of 10 hours, she died in our arms last night. The sense of loss that I feel is totally undescribable. I am absolutely devastated and numb. It's something you never really imagine will happen to you.
I hope that I am able to talk on here and that it will help in the process that lies ahead. Friends and family are trying to help but they cannot really understand the total sense of loss of losing a child. I've already had comments such as "oh well, 3rd time lucky" and "I'll be able to catch you up having a 2nd one now". I know people don't intend any harm, they just don't know what to say, and until yesterday I perhaps wouldnt have done either.
Love George, x
Firstly I wanted to say how sorry I am for your losses. I can now really understand what it feels like to lose a child.
I was pregnant with my 2nd baby and all was going well after some difficult early weeks, everything had settled down well at 10 weeks and I was told that my pregnancy was normal and no complications were expected. I felt well and had seen my consultant just Thursday last week.
Sadly my waters broke on Tuesday evening unexpextantly and although it was hoped that my baby could stay inside for a few more weeks, I went into premature labour yesterday morning and delivered my beautiful but tiny daughter Grace, at just 24+1. She weighed just 750g and was cared for by a fantastic team in special care. We know that everything possible was done for our daughter but she simply was not ready to enter the world and after a very short life of 10 hours, she died in our arms last night. The sense of loss that I feel is totally undescribable. I am absolutely devastated and numb. It's something you never really imagine will happen to you.
I hope that I am able to talk on here and that it will help in the process that lies ahead. Friends and family are trying to help but they cannot really understand the total sense of loss of losing a child. I've already had comments such as "oh well, 3rd time lucky" and "I'll be able to catch you up having a 2nd one now". I know people don't intend any harm, they just don't know what to say, and until yesterday I perhaps wouldnt have done either.
Love George, x
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'A angel in the book of life
noting down an infants birth
said as he closed the book
far too beautiful for earth'
Im also sorry that people dont know what to say, they will never 'catch up with you on your 2nd' as beautiful Grace will always be you second child.
Hug and prayers with you all.
doublebubble
I was so sorry to read your story about your precious Grace.
It is unthinkable to have to face the loss of a precious child and yet here we are, finding strength in each other, when the unthinkable has happened.
To know that your daughter passed away in your arms, surrounded by love and warmth will hopefully give you comfort in time to come. To know that you spent precious time with her, that you gazed upon her tiny and beautiful face and that those moments will give you a lifetime of special memories will help to ease your pain later on.
I like to think that my Eve is noe Poppy's guardian angel, and that perhaps that was her purpose in life. Perhaps your darling Grace will be there for you and your future children too.
There are no words really that I can find for you at this tragic time but I and others on this forum are always here to comfort and supprt each other - it has helped me tremendously.
My thoughts are with you.
T x
Please look after yourself
all my love i can possibly send
sam
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I know u are probably going through a worlwind of emotions and sometimes it helps to offload with some1 u dont no and is not from 'the real world' if you no what i mean. That why i'd always be happy to talk.
You certainly should hold your head up high and go to your job interview keeping your son in your mind everyday. Just make sure you dont put to much pressure on yourself and only do things you feel ready to do.
take care love sam
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sending much love
jo xx
Please please ignore anything like that although i am not sure i could keep my temper i feel so angry for you just by reading this.
I am sure you are feeling so many things and there are many many stages of grief all of which are completely normal and are a necessary part of the process. Just let everything come naturally and be sure to lean on all the people that are there to support you. I really wish you the best and send you all the love in the world. I hope u dont mind me writing here its just ive been so touched by your story and wish so much i could take the pain from you. Life can be so cruel and be sure to know that you did nothing wrong, none of this is your fault. You love your baby so much and cared for little Grace for the time she was with you and will always carry her close to your heart forever. Nothing or no1 can ever take that away from you. Please take care of yourself and your family
all my love
sam
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You are very brave to be posting so soon after your loss, ( as is Claire) it took me a few months to actually write it down and in a way I suppose 'agnowledge' that I wasn't still waiting on my baby to be born, that she had been and left again. I wish I had, had the courage to talk on here sooner as some of the girls on this site have been of great comfort to me..
Try not to be offended by the things that people say, we have had a few awful things said to us by people close to us. We just try to 'rise' above it and know that slthough (hopefully) they don't mean to offend us, we would never dream of being so insensitive to people in similar situations.
Take care xxx
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. We have shared stories on the Jan 08 forum, and I was so glad that you came through your earlier pregnancy problems. i am just so so sorry that you have lost your daughter.
My heart goes out to you and all of you who have lost children. I hope that you are having better days today and that slowly and gently, there are more of the better days to come.
Much love x
George, x