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those who co sleep advice
im considering this is my lo is 8 months and screaming when going down in cot, i actually worried that maybe it isnt natural for him.
my main concern is what time do you put to bed? if in you bed and you are still up a there bedtime?
do you sleep sound due to lack of room?
when and hwo do you go about moving into own room/bed?
my main concern is what time do you put to bed? if in you bed and you are still up a there bedtime?
do you sleep sound due to lack of room?
when and hwo do you go about moving into own room/bed?
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we rocked him to sleep when had colic and has never really settled alone, even with controlled crying!
Have you heard of the baby wisperer? I had to do this with both my girls, as they woke every hour in the night for months. Currently still doing it with dd2. We're just over 2 weeks in. She was dummy dependant, so I took that off her when we started. The first night, up every hour as normal. Second night she slept through 8 till 7. Since then she's either slept through or needed me once or twice a night to settle her again. It's been incredibly hard work as she's been high maintenance from the start, colic, silent refulx, lactose and gluten intolerancs. She's had over 20 osteopath appointments. Basically cried a hell if a lot. Only reason I'm telling you this is because I thought her being able to soothe herself would be impossible , but it's not. She's 8 months old. X
Now I try and make sure I do the same wind down routine for his naps then the same for his bedtime. At bedtime I'll bath, massage, put in pj's and sleeping bags then feed. Then when he gets ratty I'll take him to his room, turn on the white noise, feed him the rest of his bottle if there is any then put him in his cot with his mobile on. He usually whines/cries for about 5mins when the mobile has stopped then he's asleep.
His naps are a little harder. About 20mins before his naptime, sometimes before if he's really tired, I'll walk around the house/garden with him then take him upstairs away from all his toys and play with him on our bed for a bit. Then when he starts to get ratty I'll put the white noise on in his room, swaddle him (by which point he is normally screaming) then sit with him in his room singing a lullaby. When he's calm and drowsy I put him in his cot still singing, turn the mobile on, stroke his head a bit then leave the room and he has been falling straight to sleep! I think he has to have his few mins of crying (or screaming!) down which I stay with him through then put him down when he's calm.
Sorry its off the topic of co-sleeping. But I know that my lo used to be the same but it is getting better with patience and perserverence! x
We have a night time routine of tea, play, bath, breast feed then he'll fall asleep. He'll sleep in my arms until it's time for me to go to bed because as soon as I go to lay him down he wakes up and screams. I find I sleep very well with him in the bed with us and there are no space problems because we have a king size bed!
I'll let him decide when he's ready to sleep in his own room. At the minute he has separation issues but once he's got over these I think he'll be happy to sleep by himself! I'm a great believer in following your baby's lead!
i too live with in laws! tempoary and they hate hearing him cry but let us do what we want with him and i ignore there advice as its usually not my way of doing things although they mean well.
i do have bedtime routine with carson but he gets so anxious when you dress him for bed, he knows!
i dont no how i feel about co sleeping, i thinbk im doing it as im so stuck! seeing paeds doc tomorrow to see that he is ok and she also has sleep behaviour degree so hope that helps!
Keep on trying and one day you'll find something that works. Hope it goes alright tomorrow. x
The main thing is you do what's right for you and your family. For me ifound it so hard to find happy times some days bcoz dd2 was so difficult. But co sleeping was one of them. Plus she kept my oh away lol x x
[Modified by: hayls on September 22, 2009 01:06 PM]
He has a bath, massage, feed and then bed.
Sometimes he will go down in his crib for a few hours (very rarely) and then come in with us after his first feed (he's still not sleeping through) or often we'll all just go to bed together and watch tv upstairs. The only problem with this is that we don't get any 'us' time and I also have to struggle getting all the housework done in the day when we're home alone.
We all sleep well (as well as you can when he still feeds so often!) and the only precaution we take is that we turn our pillows around so they're not near his head and to also make sure he is on top of the duvet with his blanket so that he doesn't get too hot.
I do wonder how we will ever get him into his cot but also really agree with mustBmad that there is no harm in co sleeping, its natures way.
The only problem I can forsee with starting it slightly later might be that he becomes really dependant on you and never goes into his cot. I can appreciate how hard the crying is though as controlled crying rarely works for us either.
How did it go with the Paedatrician? x
so she said i should just leave him to cry, at first i was like' no way' and she explained to me that it wasnt cruel and to bare in mind that it was temper, as he was feed, not too hot/cold ect and to just leave him as this willl help him long term. i spent a hr feeling unsure and after more talk i decided we will do it. as hubbie going to do at night and obviously me in day.
last night he cried for 40 mins, fell asleep at 2050 and he woke at 0645! i couldn't believe it! he was happy and smiley when he woke and took 15 mins for day nap today! i still feel awful doing it, but she assures me-money back! that it wont take longer than a week, usually 3 days.
next step if he does wake in night will be to stop night feeds, but i wanted to do one thing at time to be easy on us and him.
i never thought i would be able to do this as it feels wrong, but in my mind it doesnt as long term he will be settled and happy and so will we, and its not doing him any harm.