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Nursery nightmare
Hi. My son Bon started a local school nursery in September and although he enjoyed it was finding adapting to the routine and discipline a little tricky but was improving. He only went in the afternoon, only for a little under two hours a day and after half term we tried him staying for lunch. He seemed OK but since last Thursday he cries when I leave him and he is unsettled and allegedly disruptive. He is not a clingy child, never has been so I don't understand what is going on. He has started just doing an hour in the morning but he cried again this morning and wouldn't let me go. He is due to start at a new nursery in January at a school closer to us which is actually better, and I don't know if I should persevere at this current one or withdraw him and start afresh in January. I hate seeing him upset as it is so out of character and I am so frustrated at the school's attitude to him, they say he is young for his age and yet they seem to forget that for the want for four days he would not have started nursery until September 2008.
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When Jack first started playgroup he was fine for the first few sessions then he started crying when I left him to the point where he would grab me so tightly we struggled to get him off me. With time it got better and one day he ran off to play the moment we got through the door. This did take about 10 weeks.
If you are moving him anyway the temptation is to stop him going. Be careful though as he might think he has moved due to his crying. He could do this again thinking that you will stop him going to the new one. On the other hand, it's not nice to see them like that. If you will be happier pulling him out for these few weeks then do that, but you will have to be strong with the new one and persist if he cries when you leave him there.
I'm sorry to go on a bit but I do hope this helps your decision.
Zoe x
This is really getting me down, no one likes to hear bad things about their child especially when you don't understand where it is coming from. I know he is no angel, but I also know he is no devil either and handled correctly he is fine. Maybe my hormones are kicking off and I am being too sensitive but I have been in tears several times today over it.
Im so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like something has happened to unsettle him in some way. I would ask to have a meeting with the nursery staff to try and get to the bottom of the problem.
I do not think you are being too sensitive. I agree with Zoe when she talks about moving him and being persistant at the new nursery, especially if he senses that him getting upset makes you upset.
I really hope you feel better soon and it all gets sorted out sooner!!
take care and dont forget we're here to chat to.
Kas xx
I'm sorry Bon is not happy at nursery.
It must be very hard for you.
I have to say, given the circumstances I would be inclined to withdraw him from his current nursery, and start afresh with the new one in Jan like you said.
Neither of you need this upset at this time and it would be better for you both all round.
I hope you work something out soon.
I talk to the staff quite frequently as I want to know how he is doing and there have been no changes that I know of. It is utterly unexplained that he has gone from being the most confident child I know to an unhappy little boy.
I just got an envelope of papers from the new nursery and there are no fewer than four forms to fill in and send back as well as enclosing photocopies of his birth certificate and passport. Sounds a little OTT to me especially as I have already had to provide proof of residence. Has anyone else had to provide all this for their nursery?
I work at a Nursery (when im not on mat leave) and im sure they dont ask for that much. It may well be new rules coming in however. who knows?
Kasxx
Well ive got this to come,we have got a meeting with the local nursery/school to enrol riley in the new year but his just setteled into creche and thats taken a good 6mths of him going all this year.Dont no what he will make of it but i guess its someting we got to get used to as we did it didnt we.
Hope you slove your problem and hope the closer school makes a difference.
Emma xx
The way things are going I think you should take him out of this nursery, draw a line under it and forget about it. Start a fresh with the new nursery in January. If the attitude of the staff is better there he may settle better.
Other than that I hope you are all well.
Take care, Zoe xx