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I was planning on going to a baby group at 12pm today which I have booked onto, but Skye has been sleeping since 9.30am and is still asleep. This is very unusual for her, but she is on some medication for thrush. Even if she woke up on time, she would need feeding and I would be late for the group anyway.
What would you do if you had planned on being somewhere by a certain time but your baby was still sleeping?
Would you go to the group no matter how late it was or would you forget about going?
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well I did go in the end and was 15 mins late but group was just starting. it wasnt a baby group as such but more a 12 wk course for parents called "its ok to bea parent" at a childrens centre- but not what I expected at all. there was a creche available but I didnt use it as skye was 7wksand didnt want to leave her. Anyway i got there and skye started crying to be fed so I asked if I could feed her and the woman said yes but some parents may object who had not yet arrived, plus she had cheek to say will your baby just sleep afterwards. .So off i was sent to another room on my tod thinking what is the point of being here as I am going to miss it anyway, plus I felt really annoyed by her comment about skye sleeping afterwards - bloody el she is a newborn and unpredictable. About 5/10 mins after, they came back for me, I was now feeling like I want to go home, but they asked me if I wanted her to check with the other parents if they objected to me b/feeding, I said yes, and the parents were ok so I joined the group in the end. Not very chid friendly in the end. Still deciding whether to go back next week.
But your advice is very useful as I am often stuck indoors either waiting for her to wake up, or have her next feed before I go out.
[Modified by: sevans on 19 March 2009 16:23:35 ]
What would you do if you had planned on being somewhere by a certain time but your baby was still sleeping?
Would you go to the group no matter how late it was or would you forget about going?
**********************************************
well I did go in the end and was 15 mins late but group was just starting. it wasnt a baby group as such but more a 12 wk course for parents called "its ok to bea parent" at a childrens centre- but not what I expected at all. there was a creche available but I didnt use it as skye was 7wksand didnt want to leave her. Anyway i got there and skye started crying to be fed so I asked if I could feed her and the woman said yes but some parents may object who had not yet arrived, plus she had cheek to say will your baby just sleep afterwards. .So off i was sent to another room on my tod thinking what is the point of being here as I am going to miss it anyway, plus I felt really annoyed by her comment about skye sleeping afterwards - bloody el she is a newborn and unpredictable. About 5/10 mins after, they came back for me, I was now feeling like I want to go home, but they asked me if I wanted her to check with the other parents if they objected to me b/feeding, I said yes, and the parents were ok so I joined the group in the end. Not very chid friendly in the end. Still deciding whether to go back next week.
But your advice is very useful as I am often stuck indoors either waiting for her to wake up, or have her next feed before I go out.
[Modified by: sevans on 19 March 2009 16:23:35 ]
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I personally would wake her up and go as that is a LONG time to be sleeping!!! If she is really tired she will go back to sleep while you are there and it doesn't matter you can still chat to the mummies and stuff and if she doens't go back to sleep then even better!
i used to take Ollie anyway, and when he woke up feed him wherever we were...
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Did you go in the end?
My view is that sometimes you do have to make appointments and they must get used to it so the earlier the better.
One way to look at it is if you were having to get to work would you have to get them up? or can you let them sleep?
((((hugs))))
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well done i going and keeping your cool! lol
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WHAT????? How bloody small minded and horrible it sounds, personally I would have told them where to go if they had a problem with me bf feeding my lo - they should rename the group "its ok to be a parent but dont feel like were going to involve you if you bf"....
how would the parents feel if you objected to a lo being fed by bottle? there'd be an uproar.
sorry but thats infuriated me!
of course you dont want to leave your 7 week old baby in a creche with people she or you dont know, completely understandable - was it the parents that were uncomfortable or just her trying to make out they were to cover her own feelings...?
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This was the first time I had actually spoken out at a place and asked if I could feed my baby - wasn't the reaction I was expecting especially since it is my 3rd time b/f in public now.
When my lo was that age I was exactly the same and only went out after his naps and once I'd fed him. Was home in time for next feed etc. But you get into the swing of things and it's good that you went out and fed him today while you were out. Next time you go out and feed it won't be nearly as stressful honest. S x
Thankfully most of my girls in my group bf and it's given me confidence to bf nearly anywhere. We now regularly take over cafes and have never had any complaints.
If you are concerned ask your coucil childrens services. We have a local scheme and a booklet that's published detailing which shops and restaurants have bf areas/services, baby changing facilities or are just happy for you to bf even if they don't have anywhere private.
As the others have said, although I suppose discreetness is polite for the sake of anyone who's going to feel uncomfortable at the sight of a boob (shock, horror) you should still NEVER have to ask anyone's permission to feed your baby.
I would definitely phone up the centre and perfectly politely feed back that you won't be coming back for xyz reason.
Such a shame after you made the effort to go out.
I had opposite prob at my baby massage class- I was only bottle feeder there and was looked at like a 2-headed monster lol!
But well done for getting your lo up and getting to the class, it's an achievement with such a little baby. Hope you can maybe find another group which is a bit more friendly and tolerant.
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Now Gabe's older I keep him awake for a lil bit longer if we're due to be somewhere, then he sleeps in his pram on the walk up there, he loves to sleep in his pushchair as you saw lol xx