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Anyone's Mother's Day not going as you'd hoped?
Ok so I am going to have a moan and it's likely to be long, I'm sorry. :roll: I'm being selfish, as this is my first Mother's Day and I would have hoped it would have been special. It's a good job my OH won't read this, as I'm about to diss him! Ok this is why I'm being selfish, long story, but OH's mum is in hospital, and lives 180 miles away. She's having tests done, and we don't know what's wrong at the moment. As far as I can tell it's not imminently life threatening! OH works nights, he's changed the hours round so he can drive up early tomorrow morning, hence will be going to work early evening today. So right now he's in bed asleep, and will be until mid afternoon. I feel bad because obviously he's worried about his mum, wants to see her, and by swapping his hours can see her tomorrow. He'd have been asleep for the day anyway if he wasn't going, but at least I would have had the evening with him. On the other hand this is my first ever Mother's Day, and I feel it's been ruined. I can never experience it again. Although I realise there will be lots more Mother's Day's to come. So basically I feel bad for feeling selfish, but I'm annoyed and upset, and needed to get it off my chest. Please tell me I'm not the only mummy that didn't get breakfast in bed, or who doesn't have a lovely day planned with their family. I did get a card and present, so I'm grateful for that at least. xx
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He's at work at the minute, so I'm on my own in the house with the boys. However, my eldest son has made me the most beautiful card, and from what I can tell, he absolutely nagged and nagged his dad to buy cards aswell from both him and the baby - so I have had a few lovely cards to open. I'm not sure what time hubs will be home either, so I don't know what time to cook the Mother's day banquet thing I bought myself from M&S the other day.
I can see where you're coming from Mithical, I really can, but I think if it were the other way round, and it was Father's Day and my mum was ill, I'd probably do much the same as your hubby, although I would hope that he'll try and get up a little earlier than usual for work to spend some of it with you and your lo.
I hope your day improves babe - but if not, you will have many more to come - and believe me, they get more special as the lo's get older as they can make you things and spoil you too!
xxx
My OH went out last night as it staying at his friends because we live in the country and a taxi back from town is ridiculous money. So I was upat half six and got a dirty nappy as a pressie lol!
This makes it worse though:
My mum sent me a card and a pressie for my first mothers day. And in the card she wrote 'just incase daddy didn't have the time' now, my oh IS a policeman and does struggle at valentines day and stuff for cards ect cause he always leaves everything to the last minute lol but I can't help but be slightly annoyed that my mum did this even though she was only doing it in my best interests. I feel like she's taken away an experience I should have had with oh instead and I'm sure he's seen the card and read it meaning he won't bother getting a card because my mums already done it.
At this time, mothers day is when your partner should thank you for the wonderful baby you gave him and care for. That's my opinion anyway.
However, I will say that I had a small grumble about this this morning but then my little man gave me the biggest smile and that was the best mothers day present ever! That coupled with te fact he slept all night long haha. X
My hubby is in China with work so im all alone.....well until 1pm that is when we have all the mums & nans coming round for lunch.
When we first planned it hubby was going to be here so I would have had help but he had to travel last minute last Monday and we just decided to go ahead and have it anyway because I have a sister and my hubbys bro is around too BUT.....
My sister has refused to come & help and hubbys bro as lovely as he is isnt going to give me the kind of help ill need (i.e baby help!) so im here all on my own on my first ever mothers day sorting the baby out, getting lunch ready for 8 people and I feel like ive been forgotten! Not one of them has recognised its my mothers day too. I know I wouldnt have got brekkie in bed from Olivia, or a dodgy card she made from school etc and I would still have had lunch to make but I just want them to realise its my day too!! My sister is turning up as a guest not as a host which she should be as its her mum & gran too!!
Grrrrrr
xxxx
There will be plenty of other Mothers Days for you so although you feel like this one is ruined, I'm sure he'll make up for it next year and the year after and so on. You know that your hubby didn't plan for this to happen and is obviously very worried about his mum and in all honesty, wouldn't you have done the same if you were in his shoes?
Hope your day gets better.
xx
Today there will also be grand prix and two rugby games (6 nations and a league game)!!!
My hubby is somewhat clueless! Because he isn't fussed about such days he doesn't think I am! *sigh*
Today there will also be grand prix and two rugby games (6 nations and a league game)!!!
My hubby is somewhat clueless! Because he isn't fussed about such days he doesn't think I am! *sigh*
However, I did get a lovely dinner last night and this morning I was got homemade chocolate and rasin pancakes. LO has been very cute this morning to, so the rotten gifts don't seem so bad!
Hope everyones day gets better,xx
Hubby is a chef and this is his busiest day of the year so he is currently preparing to feed 153 booked people and whoever thinks it might be a good idea to turn up on Mother's Day without booking!
I got up with the boys (well, Ryan woke at 3am as he's so bunged up and ended up joining us, then Alfie woke at 5am with the same problem and also joined us!) as he needs some sleep otherwise he may come home with no fingers!
However, after lots of hinting, I did get 3 cards - yes, one from EACH baby as well as one from him - a teddy, mug and chocolates. He NEVER does anything for days like this so I am really grateful. The boys ate their breakfast this morning without being sick, screaming or spitting it back at me, and they are now fast asleep in their cot with minimal fuss while I get things ready to go and visit my mum...
...so I guess the day isnt as bad as first thought! Just wish hubby was here to share it.
Can I just say, it does make you feel better to read of other peoples problems as yours are never as bad as you think when you see what others face. I was feeling really down this morning but at least I will see hubby tonight (sorry about that Winnie, that must be awful), my family are well (sorry mythical) and me and hubby are very much in love (I hope you are ok mummy 2 angels)
I dont mean to make anyone feel bad but we can all be grateful for something.
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie 22 + 6
I'm not at all ungrateful, he has to do this run otherwise his attempt at the marathon could injure him and he needs to know he is capable of running so far. I got a beautiful card (that made me cry!) and a lovely present so despite being alone with my precious daughter I'm a very happy mummy!
xx
Nothing else really planned though as the Grand Prix is on! Typical huh?! So I am going to give the house a clean, sort out the washing, and then plant some seeds and bulbs with my 2 year old which should be fun - and messy lol!
I am looking forward to next year as both my los will be in nursery then a few days a week so I should get something they have made which will be so lovely.
Happy Mothers Day ladies! Remember you are all fab mummies and have got the best pressies ever in your los. xx
But last year was another matter entirely! Peter was only a couple of weeks old and I was struggling with breastfeeding. So my abiding memories of my first mother's day involve mainly pain and exhaustion! Yes, the first one is special - but there will be so many more and happier ones, so please don't feel too bad.
Hope everyone's day picks up. At least the weather is lovely here. )
So I will have a lonely mothersday. |Did I forget to mention that I had to buy my own gift yesterday and had to fit it, so he did not wrap it either. No cards, flowers or anything remotely mum thing, no breakfast in bed. He is off to his own mum later today for diner and to give her her flowers. (which I had to remind him to buy)
I dont mean to make anyone feel bad but we can all be grateful for something.
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie 22 + 6
thanks hun, i be ok, things have been bad for ages, x i have my kids to get me though it. x
Last year's MD was so rubbish that this year I've planned to spend the day with my girl friends from uni (none of whom have children yet). I don't buy into all the commercial crap and certainly don't expect pressies - but last year I had a 3-month old and had hoped for a break for just one day - no nappies, no making lunch, no housework, no dragging everyone round the supermarket trying to get out of them what they wanted for dinner (like supermarket shopping is a self-indulgent activity I'd treated myself to :x ), maybe a little nap. In other words, what some women's husbands do for them every weekend anyway :roll:
Think hubby is a bit miffed about this year but as we had a total blow-out about last year I didn't want him to feel he had to go over the top this year to compensate, so I opted out totally.
To be fair to him he did bring me toast and a card in bed and I got a lie-in til 8 this morning - but all the same, nope I'm not having the perfect traditional Mothers' Day either!
Don't get me wrong, i'm not having a go for you guys who feel put out today, thats absolutely fair enough and i hope your day turns out a bit better by the end, you never know )