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ex and baby name doubts
My ex and I have a one year old son together and because my ex is arabic our sons name is Amir and his middle name is arabic which i hate but now he wants to call our unborn son by his name even though we split up n i dont want to.
I really want to call him an english name like James or Jacob but i'm scared what he might say or try to change it.
Adam is english n arabic but i'm not fond of that name really
any advice???
I really want to call him an english name like James or Jacob but i'm scared what he might say or try to change it.
Adam is english n arabic but i'm not fond of that name really
any advice???
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Its your baby and up to you at the end of the day
xx
However, I would say that although I agree the name should be mainly your choice seeing as you have split up, your ex is still your baby's father and also it may sound a little odd to have one boy with a very arabic sounding name and one with a very English sounding name. That's just my own personal opinion however, but I know when I was naming my two boys, I wanted them to have names that sounded as though they went together, if that makes sense?!
Are there any other Arabic names that you could choose as a compromise?
Good luck - I don't envy you one bit!xx
the only names i like are Jayden not arabic
James again not arabic and Adam is okay and wud be equal to me and the father so i probably call him Adam and put my dads name in middle Adam wayne because our first son has his grandads disgusting middle name.
I shall talk to my family about it.
My friends baby father is Turkish and she refuses to put the kids in his surname (I dont even think he is on the birth certificate) because if they split up and he took the kids to Turkey she would have practically no rights to claiming her children back.
As for first names if you have split up then dont worry what he thinks, if you went along with it with your first son then its his turn to go along with you for your second.
Its up to you as the boys leagal guardian. xx
interesting topic!!! My other half is Tunisian and he has come up with some awful names!!!! I liked Samir as it can be shortened to Sami or Zakaria as it can be shortened to Zak or Zaki. He hates both!!! I am taking charge and naming my son, my first born is Luca Yanis which I love but I am finding it hard to find another boys name which I like.
Good luck
Dani 31 weeks
but i think i'm been controlled by him n my family. my family r arguing wiv me saying that am gona choose foreign name n my ex hubby is saying it must arabic name!! am so confused probably just gona call it adam or zak they r arab n english names, just have to keep looking to keep everyone happy.
If you are not together anymore I do think you get the right for the final decision, but if you want to keep the peace I think scrolling through name books will help a lot!
My oh had wanted to name our son after his father and I refused saying I wanted him to have his own identity not someone elses, this actually went down well so may be worth a try. Also in Egypt the tradition seems to be the middle names consist of the father(oh) and the fathers father so he got it in the middle name instead. (would you ne happy with that?)
Like someone said I think because you already have one son with a foreign name I would personally be tempted to go for a name of similar origin. We went with zachariah, it is spelt in english on the birth certificate however all of oh's side pronounce it -zacha-Rrrray-ah' but in that strong non-affectionate accent. It doesn't bother me much as I know all the teachers etc in england will pronounce it in english and eventually he will probably decide to change it to zach anyway, either way he can choose himself whether he wants it to sound british or not. Along those lines I wonder if you could get away with jacob as you could spell it the british way and call him jacob whereas his family can pronounce it -Yah-oob!' it wouldn't really matter as your little one will be spending the majority of the time with you and non-arabic speaking people. Best of luck
(I also want to add on emma-lous comment - that losing my son petrifies me, it was infact a passing comment my husband -jokingly' threatened, maybe not all countries are of muslim law now but you also have the issue of knowing where to look. It's great if you feel perfectly at ease with this situation but I know I will always have that doubt, I have also heard too many awful stories of this nature.)
( i feel like i'm the only one who split. am still married to him but we split cos he kept trying to control me, being selfish and mean.
we split many times but now i feel lonely, and miss the times when we go out and stuff. i've got my own house now and said he waiting for me to decide what i wana do but i'm scared as it all turns out the same messed up and we ended getting annoyed wiv each other.
what can i do?
I would love to talk to you but not on a public forum my oh is here atm so I will email you on the link tomorrow or please feel free to click on my link. All I'll say though is if you've plucked up the courage to leave it would be a million times harder to do it again, stay strong and hope to speak to you soon