Hi Ginaaa - I have also been trying for 7 months (I got an early mc at cycle 3).. My doctor said to keep trying and that it'll happen again.. still no luck.. I am kind of gearing up mentally for the long run, it seems so against the odds to catch the egg... My period is pretty light, so I wonder if it is to blame. Good luck to you xx
Hi Gina. Welcome! We’ve been ttc for about 14 months with no luck. Got fertility specialist first meeting on Monday. I went to doc in october and She was lovely. Referred us for bloods and sperm test and also put us on waiting list for specialist. You will feel totally impatient and wondering why it’s not happening. I think in my hesd I was okay up until about 6 months then the panic set in a bit. It’s very hard to accept that your body isn’t doing what you want and that’s it totally out with your control. But honestly once you accept that it is outwith your control and don’t blame yourself you’ll feel a lot better x
Aww thanks for the responses! I’m so glad to talk to people who are going through it too. You feel so alone and that it’s just you who can’t have children because it seems so easy for others. Ultimately though you’re right, I guess others do not talk about it just like I’m not!! I tell myself not to think about and worry and then i do. My period used to be 30 days and they are getting less each month because I think i think about it too much. Anyway thank you and keep me posted on your journeys! Fingers crossed for you all. Xx
I just had my period for 10 days and now I don’t even know how to track ovulation. Would it still be considered as part of a normal cycle? I get so concerned about my irregular cycles. Will just have to wait and see I guess...
I'm on like day 37 of waiting for my period to come. I've only taken two tests but negative and I really don't feel any different so I know it's just a waiting game. From being on the pill for so long I'm used to a 28 day cycle so it's just weird. Mother Nature you fickle lady. *sigh*
My husband and I have decided to stop “trying”. Sex isn’t fun anymore and we’re iust getting frustrated with each other. We’re just going to do the deed when we feel like it. No ovulation tests, no BBT. We’re trying to make it fun again.
All this on the back of a massive fight Friday night. 😒
AF has arrived! Only a couple days left and then on to month 4 of TTC! I don't do ovulation tests (yet) but all 7,259 of the fertility apps I have on my phone are averaging 2/6 or 2/7 for D-Day. My 30th bday is 2/19. Come on ovaries, pull yourself together ladies!
I have a 24 day cycle i OV on the 16 feb which was day 11 of my cycle we did the baby dance on the 14 and 15 feb and nw am 7 days away from testing realy hoping for a BFP its our first month TTC .i have ben feeling mild cramping and tender breast
I am CD8 at the moment. My first natural period since coming off the pill was last week. I came off the pill on 16th January and had my normal withdrawal bleed on 21st January. Last cycle was 27 days, and AF lasted 4-5 days, which is unusual for me when I am not on the pill- I used to have about 33 day cycles, but I know they will be up and down whilst my body gets a rhythm back.
This month is our first month of TTC for baby number one. I am using the Ava bracelet and as of yesterday I started using the Clear Blue digital ovulation kit (the one I used yesterday was the two fertile days but today I have brought the four fertile days test so going to use that one from today as my cycles may be strange. I am wondering whether to use both to see if they match up, or use one in the morning and one when I get home from work. I’m not decided yet, but currently testing around 4.50-5pm as that is usually when I get home from work in the week so trying to keep it to the same sort of time. I don’t want to take tests to work with me if I can help it.
Ava and Premom are predicting ovulation to be 4th or 8th March, so I have two contrasting dates at the moment, so hoping the Clear Blue tests will help us out more. We are DTD once a day at the moment to try it out. I know there is every other day but just thought for the first month we would just give it a go, at least we would get something on ovulation day and in the fertile period. It might not make a difference but as we are just starting out we thought it was worth a try.
Best of luck to everyone on their journey. Sending baby dust to you all.
Hi all, this is my first time posting but I've been lurking for a few weeks. Completely get how the original poster felt, I've become obsessed and it's only really the first month we've been trying!
I'm currently CD34 so AF was due yesterday but still nothing and none of the cramping I usually get. I took a test 3 days ago and again today but both negative. I've been reading that some tests dont reveal a positive until weeks later, but not sure how true that is.
Also, my best friend told me last weekend that she is 8 weeks pregnant and I am beyond excited for her, but at the same time have become more and more obsessed by the day, reading into every sign.
I guess it's a waiting game but I'm finding it hard already. I cant even imagine how it feels to have been trying for a long time.
Also, very interested in any replies you're give BeckyG86. I havent tried any of the ovulation kits yet. I thought I had been tracking dates but I downloaded the Flo app yesterday and those dates dont seem to match exactly with mine. Bought some ovulation strips today but not sure how to use them yet. Assuming I just test on the days the app suggests, but would be grateful for any tips.
I found this post this morning, took me about an hour to read through but felt like you were all in my own head!
My story is I’m 37 in 3 months and been TTC since the end of 2018. I never thought it would be this late on before ttc but wrongly or rightly I wanted to be married first and my now husband (who is 6 1/2 yrs younger than me) wasnt ready to be married and become a dad until last year. I love him so went with his schedule although its been a little big crippling inside. Anyway, we are now on our third cycle of trying and I’m scared we have left it too late and I have waves of feeling so sad. I know everyone says to be patient but time isnt on my side.
Hats off to all of you ladies who have been on this rollercoaster for so long, I don’t know how you do it.
No real point to this post other than to say I feel sad, and there isnt anywhere else I can say that without being told “it will be fine”.
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Hi Ginaaa - I have also been trying for 7 months (I got an early mc at cycle 3).. My doctor said to keep trying and that it'll happen again.. still no luck.. I am kind of gearing up mentally for the long run, it seems so against the odds to catch the egg... My period is pretty light, so I wonder if it is to blame. Good luck to you xx
They say it can take 12 months averagely. People just don't talk about when it takes a while only when they concieve quickly.
Hi Gina. Welcome! We’ve been ttc for about 14 months with no luck. Got fertility specialist first meeting on Monday. I went to doc in october and She was lovely. Referred us for bloods and sperm test and also put us on waiting list for specialist. You will feel totally impatient and wondering why it’s not happening. I think in my hesd I was okay up until about 6 months then the panic set in a bit. It’s very hard to accept that your body isn’t doing what you want and that’s it totally out with your control. But honestly once you accept that it is outwith your control and don’t blame yourself you’ll feel a lot better x
Aww thanks for the responses! I’m so glad to talk to people who are going through it too. You feel so alone and that it’s just you who can’t have children because it seems so easy for others. Ultimately though you’re right, I guess others do not talk about it just like I’m not!! I tell myself not to think about and worry and then i do. My period used to be 30 days and they are getting less each month because I think i think about it too much. Anyway thank you and keep me posted on your journeys! Fingers crossed for you all. Xx
I just had my period for 10 days and now I don’t even know how to track ovulation. Would it still be considered as part of a normal cycle? I get so concerned about my irregular cycles. Will just have to wait and see I guess...
I'm on like day 37 of waiting for my period to come. I've only taken two tests but negative and I really don't feel any different so I know it's just a waiting game. From being on the pill for so long I'm used to a 28 day cycle so it's just weird. Mother Nature you fickle lady. *sigh*
My app says 24th Also! I hooe we get sl.e great luck this month!
My husband and I have decided to stop “trying”. Sex isn’t fun anymore and we’re iust getting frustrated with each other. We’re just going to do the deed when we feel like it. No ovulation tests, no BBT. We’re trying to make it fun again.
All this on the back of a massive fight Friday night. 😒
AF has arrived! Only a couple days left and then on to month 4 of TTC! I don't do ovulation tests (yet) but all 7,259 of the fertility apps I have on my phone are averaging 2/6 or 2/7 for D-Day. My 30th bday is 2/19. Come on ovaries, pull yourself together ladies!
Bdubbs - Sorry to hear af arrived. It's frustrating! But if af is here now, wouldn't it be CD1 of your 4th cycle? Good luck to you xx
CD4. She arrived on the waves of a tsunami last Friday afternoon and will be wreaking havoc through the long weekend!
I am same. I started to take fert smart and this helped so many people’s
I have a 24 day cycle i OV on the 16 feb which was day 11 of my cycle we did the baby dance on the 14 and 15 feb and nw am 7 days away from testing realy hoping for a BFP its our first month TTC .i have ben feeling mild cramping and tender breast
Can I jump on please?
I am CD8 at the moment. My first natural period since coming off the pill was last week. I came off the pill on 16th January and had my normal withdrawal bleed on 21st January. Last cycle was 27 days, and AF lasted 4-5 days, which is unusual for me when I am not on the pill- I used to have about 33 day cycles, but I know they will be up and down whilst my body gets a rhythm back.
This month is our first month of TTC for baby number one. I am using the Ava bracelet and as of yesterday I started using the Clear Blue digital ovulation kit (the one I used yesterday was the two fertile days but today I have brought the four fertile days test so going to use that one from today as my cycles may be strange. I am wondering whether to use both to see if they match up, or use one in the morning and one when I get home from work. I’m not decided yet, but currently testing around 4.50-5pm as that is usually when I get home from work in the week so trying to keep it to the same sort of time. I don’t want to take tests to work with me if I can help it.
Ava and Premom are predicting ovulation to be 4th or 8th March, so I have two contrasting dates at the moment, so hoping the Clear Blue tests will help us out more. We are DTD once a day at the moment to try it out. I know there is every other day but just thought for the first month we would just give it a go, at least we would get something on ovulation day and in the fertile period. It might not make a difference but as we are just starting out we thought it was worth a try.
Best of luck to everyone on their journey. Sending baby dust to you all.
I'm currently CD34 so AF was due yesterday but still nothing and none of the cramping I usually get. I took a test 3 days ago and again today but both negative. I've been reading that some tests dont reveal a positive until weeks later, but not sure how true that is.
Also, my best friend told me last weekend that she is 8 weeks pregnant and I am beyond excited for her, but at the same time have become more and more obsessed by the day, reading into every sign.
I guess it's a waiting game but I'm finding it hard already. I cant even imagine how it feels to have been trying for a long time.
Wishing you all the best.
I havent tried any of the ovulation kits yet. I thought I had been tracking dates but I downloaded the Flo app yesterday and those dates dont seem to match exactly with mine. Bought some ovulation strips today but not sure how to use them yet. Assuming I just test on the days the app suggests, but would be grateful for any tips.
I found this post this morning, took me about an hour to read through but felt like you were all in my own head!
My story is I’m 37 in 3 months and been TTC since the end of 2018. I never thought it would be this late on before ttc but wrongly or rightly I wanted to be married first and my now husband (who is 6 1/2 yrs younger than me) wasnt ready to be married and become a dad until last year. I love him so went with his schedule although its been a little big crippling inside. Anyway, we are now on our third cycle of trying and I’m scared we have left it too late and I have waves of feeling so sad. I know everyone says to be patient but time isnt on my side.
Hats off to all of you ladies who have been on this rollercoaster for so long, I don’t know how you do it.
No real point to this post other than to say I feel sad, and there isnt anywhere else I can say that without being told “it will be fine”.
Baby dust to us all 💕
Baby dust our way girl