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I've recently discovered I'm pregnant again so will only be back at work for 6 or 7 months. Next time round we will do exactly the same thing as this time. It works for us.
As hubby either works away completely or is home things work a little differently for us. Obviously when he's away I do everything but while he's home I'd say he does the lions share of school runs, cooking, cleaning and of course entertaining the small one (16 months), while I spend time with my horses. It works for us 😊
We discussed our roles when we first got pregnant. I've always been self-employed and with that comes a certain amount of uncertainty in terms of income. Nothing is guaranteed. When you have no responsibilities a flexible income is not really a drama but when little fellas come along it's important to be able to budget and plan ahead, so we took the joint decision to swap roles as that allowed us to keep a good income but also ensured the children spent their time with us (or vice versa)
Life took a bit of a turn a couple of years ago when I had to have my right leg amputated above the knee following an accident. My Wife managed to take time away from work to help with my rehabilitation but has since returned to her career. I'm now up and about and life continues unabated. The kids are happy, the parents are happy and life is good. It could be better (obviously) but you cope with the cards you're dealt. Being at home has allowed me to develop as a husband and as a Father. Our children love the arrangement we have and it works well for us.
I'm not going to preach, everyone's circumstance is different, but so long as the children come first, it's all good.