@Chloe888 thanks. I'm not feeling great right now. I think if I knew my fertility appointment was coming I would feel fine as I would feel like we are getting somewhere. Due to all of the covid stuff I have only had basic bloods done which have come back normal. No scan. Can't even get semen analysis done. I feel like my time is lopping away due to my age (35) and it just feels like it is never going to happen. Deep down inside I know something isn't quite right and it is frustrating just waiting for clinics to open up so we can see a specialist. I feel like I may need my tubes flushing. I know I can conceive as I have two children who I conceived 1st month. I just wonder if the gap between having children my rubes have become sluggish. I have read lots of stories of women conceiving after having their tubes flushed. I just feel like it will be next year before I can even get that done.
Hey ladies! Was wondering if I can join you all this month as I haven't been on here for about a year now! Sounds crazy even writing that! I'm CD1 and on Cycle 12 now trying to conceive our 1st. Unfortunatley had a loss a year ago after 14 months of trying. Had a real down day today after AF coming so desperate from some support from people that understand! X
@FlossyLZ sorry to see you’re in this group, and are on this long journey!
Is this ttc with a new partner, or the same father as the two children?
Must be so frustrating with COVID going on.
A couple of years ago when ttc with my first I got a bit obsessive and wanted to see if my husbands sperm was ok. I got a online sperm test, they aren’t cheap, I think maybe £40 but they can give you an indication at least if it’s your husband that needs further tests. Here’s the link:
Do you do opk and bbt? Can you see that you’re ovulating?
@Cha@Char09 welcome, and so sorry to hear of your journey, you must be exhausted 😔 do you do opk and bbt? Any methods you’ve been trying? We will help all we can! I myself had a mmc in 2017 but was very lucky to conceive 3 months later with my now 20 month old. I understand the pain and still find myself welling up now thinking about it all.
You’ll find the strength to keep going for your little miracle! Take the AF as a chance to recoup and be kind to yourself. ✨
@penny@Pennylane87 oooo the plot thickens!! Well at least you have covered BD on all those days!
I feel like I’m already out. I’m 1dpo today I think, pretty sure I ovulated yesterday and Husband didn’t want to bd. He’s having a lot of stress with work, lost his job due to COVID etc so he was really low. I couldn’t do much about it but don’t feel confident now. We BD the night of my peak OPK. Can that be enough? I guess it can... but just would have rather have covered all bases! 😫 can’t help but wake up and be pissed off with him!
@RiaMushk It has been a few months of pressuring my husband to get the bd happening on a daily basis. He was quiet tired from working so much through Covid he has been doing two jobs so he couldn't manage every day but this month his work load has been pushed back so I took full advantage clearly 🤣🤣 but we argued a bit about it because we missed my fertile days and then I knew I had no chance 😭 And I would say night of opk is good enough. Did you use sperm friendly lubricant at all? Apparently the days before ovulation is the best chance not the actual day of.
@RiaMushk morning 🙂 so I used to do OPKs but I don't anymore as they just stress me out too much! I use Ovusense. Also after nearly 3 years of TTC I know my body like clockwork now 😂 I am so exhausted. I felt defeated yesterday when AF arrived! Hoping for a better day today! When we fell pregnant we only DTD twice so yes your defo in with a chance! I'm sorry it's been so hard with COVID. It's hard to get them to BD when they are really not in the mood! Xx
@RiaMushk oh bless you! I think you’re definitely covered and also, yes it would have been even better on ovulation day but it’s ok.. sex when you’re not up to it isn’t much of sex but rather a chore.. not the type of sex you’d want! Maybe bd today?
Also, spotting is still coming and going but only when I wipe when I go to the toilet, just makes me feel super uneasy! I had sex last night again and I just became super super paranoid as I’m worried that it might effect things!!
do you think I should avoid sex? I’m struggling because I haven’t told oh yet about the tests and I’m trying to hold out at least until my af is late .. but I’m so scared having sex may have a bad effect and turn the pregnancy into a chemical? I’m wondering if I should just tell him?
@Chloe888 Yes i am in the list for when the clinics open up again. Realistically though it is going to be a while until the first appointment as there will be a backlog. @RiaMushk Yes same partner. There has been a bit of a gap between children through as our youngest is now 6. We figured it would take longer due to our age. I know I am ovulating as I temp. I use my persona monitor as opk.
Thanks for the link to the private tests. I would consider it as we have been waiting since the beginning of lockdown to get this referral.
Managed to convince oh to take a little but of zinc to help his swimmers. Does anyone else's DH take zinc or anything else?
I’ve been using conceive plus the past two cycles and this current cycle.. I mean I don’t know whether they help or not, I’ve read lots of positive reviews about both but I suppose it’s better than regular lube and also, no harm done if you did try?
I would recommend conceive plus too 🙂 @Siiia have you had some positive tests? @FlossyLZ are you waiting to be referred? I called my doctor to get the ball rolling again yesterday for our referral x
@Char09 I am waiting for it to go. It may well have gone this week as I had contacted them over a week ago to see if it had gone and it hadn't then but they did say referrals could open up at any time. I was thinking of calling next week to check. So sorry you are going through the same. It is so hard isn't it. It just feels like it will never happen.
@FlossyLZ fingers crossed its soon then 🤞 COVID is such an added stress to it all! I'm having my first bloods done next week so ours won't be ready yet. My husband needs to do his sperm analysis and they are not sure of the protocol as its changed since COVID. When we had ours last time we only waited a month or so to be seen so I'm hoping once yours has gone you won't have long to wait!
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do you do opk and bbt? Any methods you’ve been trying? We will help all we can! I myself had a mmc in 2017 but was very lucky to conceive 3 months later with my now 20 month old. I understand the pain and still find myself welling up now thinking about it all.
@penny@Pennylane87 oooo the plot thickens!! Well at least you have covered BD on all those days!
It has been a few months of pressuring my husband to get the bd happening on a daily basis. He was quiet tired from working so much through Covid he has been doing two jobs so he couldn't manage every day but this month his work load has been pushed back so I took full advantage clearly 🤣🤣 but we argued a bit about it because we missed my fertile days and then I knew I had no chance 😭
And I would say night of opk is good enough. Did you use sperm friendly lubricant at all? Apparently the days before ovulation is the best chance not the actual day of.
I am so exhausted. I felt defeated yesterday when AF arrived! Hoping for a better day today!
When we fell pregnant we only DTD twice so yes your defo in with a chance! I'm sorry it's been so hard with COVID. It's hard to get them to BD when they are really not in the mood! Xx
Yes i am in the list for when the clinics open up again. Realistically though it is going to be a while until the first appointment as there will be a backlog.
@RiaMushk
Yes same partner. There has been a bit of a gap between children through as our youngest is now 6. We figured it would take longer due to our age. I know I am ovulating as I temp. I use my persona monitor as opk.
Thanks for the link to the private tests. I would consider it as we have been waiting since the beginning of lockdown to get this referral.
Managed to convince oh to take a little but of zinc to help his swimmers. Does anyone else's DH take zinc or anything else?
@Siiia have you had some positive tests?
@FlossyLZ are you waiting to be referred? I called my doctor to get the ball rolling again yesterday for our referral x